I went on a date with a guy in college and he talked about how big various anime girls tits were the entire time. Insta-ghost. Idk if that was a fixable personality trait but it wasn’t my responsibility anyway.
Not quite as bad, but I went on a date with someone that just explained video games I hadn’t played. He would ask about a video game and if I hadn’t played it he’d speak about it uninterrupted for 10-20 minutes explaining the levels. Not even interesting lore or anything. It would be like listening to someone explain a speedrun, but their speedrun is just playing the game normally. I like video games and play with my partners and friends, and I even watch videos about video games I haven’t played and I could only stand 3 of these rounds before ending the date. He was completely uninterested in talking about anything else and didn’t even want to talk about games I had actually played. Only games I knew nothing about. Totally bizarre. It felt like a prank. Would make a great greentext from his perspective though.
I wonder if he’ll have a moment of clarity in a decade or so about how weird that was?
Nah, he’ll blame it all on wokism.
I mean, girls have boobs, so they must like to talk about them, right? Right???
Some of them do, but best not to assume so!
Helps if you don’t start the conversation with " Hello m’lady."
Seems like an appropriate response to a man who takes a womens studies course to try and pick up women
Especially if he doesn’t bathe
Why do you assume is a women studies course?
And why do they assume he doesn’t bathe?
I, for one, feel some (shallow) sympathy for the protagonist of this plausibly fake story on the internet. I’m sure he showered and put on roll-on deodorant like a decent citizen, only to be crushed by the reality where social capital has been dwindling for decades, as presented by Robert D. Putnam. In my essay
edit: don’t downvote me I’m serious
He’s on 4chan?
So much prejudice
Because there’s a trend progressing in radfem groups where misandry is being normalized because it lets them hate men while remaining the victums in every situation instead of going to therapy.
Misandry is not a real concept. It’s a term used by reactionary worthless dumbfucks who cannot handle the necessity of feminism. People who use the term misandry unironically should be strapped into a rocket and launched into the sun.
Thanks for being the example
Whenever there is a worthless dumbfuck pretending that misandry is real, I will always be the example of a rational person pushing back on it.
Yes, your actions in this thread scream “highly rational” and not hateful in any way.
Because the post was written by someone who clearly feels that these women owe him their attention.
I assumed it’s a women’s studies class because the kind of male who feels entitled to attention like this would typically think something along the lines of “women’s studies would have the highest ratio of women to men of any other class” and so join said class assuming it would be a good place to get a date.
The tone of the post implies that he is upset after realizing the course would not double as his own personal harem of desperate women fighting each other for his affection.
The reactions of the women he mentioned is why I assumed he probably doesn’t bathe. I’m guessing he showed up in stained sweatpants or something similar as well.
Any other questions?
Yes: How often do you smugly talk out your ass like this and how has it effected your ability to get a date?
Mostly in this community, because the whole reason it exists is to laugh at shitty greentexts from 4chan. It has not affected my dating life in the slightest, as I don’t talk about this place when I’m not here.
You seem like you must be a real “life of the party” kind of person
At least I get invited to parties.
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Also, when people say meet others at college they don’t mean in the classes, especially not in the lecture halls lol. They mean in the social events…
I was pretty shy when I started college and have always disliked social events. I skipped a few years in highschool so I was young when I started. Combined with working 30+ hours a week to pay for college and my social life was pretty dead.
My junior/senior year I decided to sit next to the most beautiful woman in class on day one. I would then smile, say hello, and leave them alone. Then smile, say goodbye at the end of class and leave.
A few weeks of this and most of them started talking to me a bit before or after class. By mid-terms I was friendly with a few beautiful women and had a couple dates. The last quarter of my senior year, I sat down next to my now wife.
I did get called out by my wife on knowing so many beautiful women when we were dating. She was a bit annoyed but I did sit down next to her after all.
I met the love of my life at a literal exam.
I think the trick to it is that you shouldn’t force any situations like this to have any sort of outcome, just keep yourself open to new people. Like set up situations where you can meet new people, and have your attitude be “I’d like to get to know you, so we can either be friends, more than friends or never meet again if that’s how it shakes out”, and just keeping it low stakes. And then just try to get into those situations as much as you can.
in my first three years of college i spoke to maybe ten students, pretty much all of them because we were assigned a team project together. only one guy talked to me because we were sitting next to each other at the same class and i started a few short-lived conversations with whoever was next to me before exams if the teacher was taking too long to come.
besides that, many people (almost everyone it seems) came into the college as friend groups from high school. they spoke to each other, but you’re not within that friend group and it feels awkward to butt in a conversation where everyone’s already highschool friends and you’re a stranger.
ya if you want to meet people, join a club.
I only ever speak to people I don’t already know in the same class when there’s class assignments that requires us to.
i don’t think we had anything like clubs. there was no campus as they have in america, just a college and a student dorm that was shared with other faculties.
there were some club-like activities like tabletop game evenings every now and then but i always had classes during those and couldn’t try them out.
In college, made my own clubs and flyered it around.
One club was the cartoons and cereal club, where people brought cereal and we’d watch 90s cartoons for an hour. Another club was the Bob Ross appreciation club, which was just an excuse to drink wine and paint.
Be weird. You’d be surprised by the people you attract. And it was kind of awesome to go around bragging to people that I got 30 college kids to watch classic Xmen and eat Applejack’s.
It’s funny how this post is just a greentext story about a guy trying to talk to a girl in class. But some of the comments are negative or have such divisive vote ratios: assume bad hygiene or “Seems like an appropriate response to a man who takes a womens studies course to try and pick up women”
Am I the only one that’s surprised that the comments are so negative? The interaction from the greentext seems like a somewhat “standard” thing to happen in one’s life
assume bad hygiene or “Seems like an appropriate response to a man who takes a womens studies course to try and pick up women”
I gotta say, I never had any of these problems in college. And I won’t even pretend I had great hygiene or particularly good social skills. The trick with college is that 19 year old girls also didn’t have great hygiene or well-developed social skills. We were all a bunch of clueless, fumbling, young adults trying to figure each other out.
Let’s set aside the fact that OP is probably lying. When one guy gets ostracized by an entire classroom of other students, it’s safe to assume one of two things:
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The classroom is full of bigots who hate This One Guy for a very particular cultural reason (maybe you made a mistake going to South Confederacy Technical College as a black guy looking to meet white chicks)
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The guy is so universally obnoxious that he can’t get the time of day from the second biggest loser in the room
Am I the only one that’s surprised that the comments are so negative?
If it was posted on anything but 4chan, maybe. But anyone who knows the reputation of the average 4chan user can come up with a host of reasons why people are avoiding him like the plague.
The trick with college is that 19 year old girls also didn’t have great hygiene or well-developed social skills. We were all a bunch of clueless, fumbling, young adults trying to figure each other out.
Brother, ain’t this the truth.
I didn’t make any friends with my same-age classmates just by casually talking.
Then I went to night classes with full grown adults and i was invited to dinners and birthday parties immediately.
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It does seem to be a very 21st century thing to treat an unwanted romantic conversational overture as a form of assault.
I suspect it’s even more so with terminally online people who are too socially awkward to be able to just brush someone off and move on, without being haunted by it for the next four decades.
I get that sometimes there are men who go too far and make a situation untenable, and absolutely fuck those guys, but overall I think we’re going in the wrong direction in society where people just don’t talk to each other any more.
It doesn’t even have to be romantic.
Try calling anyone under 30 on the phone. They also think you are assaulting and traumatizing them. Or just ask someone a direct question to their face, however innocuous…
Everyone is terminally online now. And asking them to give you their direct one on one attention is considered demanding and rude. Everything has to be a text or a chat. Half the time when you interact with people IRL, they are on their phones. I see so many couples at bars now who are just… sitting there together on their phones.
I have a dog. She loves people and likes asking strangers for pets. People over 40/50 are happy to chat me up about my dog, ask me what her name is, make a comment about how cute she is. People under that age look like I am attacking them if I try to socialize with them about me dog. They just want to pet her and run away asap. they don’t ask me what breed she is, what her name is, or anything. They avoid all eye contact or conversation with me. It’s insane. Male or female.
People generally only want to socialize with people they already know and they primary want to do it via group chat or discord. Everyone and everything else is ‘scary’ or gives them ‘anxiety’.
Hell I told a person in line at the book store a few months ago she and it was really good and I’d read it I hope she enjoys it. She looked at me with daggers in her eyes, didn’t smile, said nothing. She was clearly around 30 too. It’s insane. 5-10 years ago that person would have been like ‘oh cool thanks! yeah I’m excited’. I remember being able to talk to people in book stores… about books. Nowadays… nope you are assaulting/attacking someone if you talk to them about books in a bookstore. Unless it’s an employee.
Lemmy is filled with incels who are in denial. It’s kind of like how the most rabid homophobes are closted gays.
Whoa there frend-o, that’s a yikes from me. I may be a neurodiverse no-pussy guy from Lemmy, but I played Magic The Gathering at the comic con once and while I was explaining the cards to this girl, our hands accidentally touched and she laughed.
Wow, college has turned rough, to many anxieties, I had fun in college, met new ppl, met my college gf of 3 years no fraternity needed not even socialmedia…and I’m just 44, already someone is calling anon a creep without any prior knowledge of the person or any context, it’s that easy now to to judge people and call anyone a creep …and they are wondering why are ppl lonely, single and anxious
A boomer told me that he observes younger generations as being stand off-ish. I don’t disagree. I suppose having grown up with “stranger danger” message being drilled into us made us that way. I don’t want to start a generation fight and blame boomers, but who are the parents of millenials who taught us the message that made us hypervigilant? The stranger danger message has merit, but if older generations are complaining why we behave that way, you reap what you sow as the saying goes.
Another consideration is that if Anon is Gen Z, it is very likely that his peers grew up with constant attention to online and digital presence, which makes them socially awkward. It didn’t help either that much of Gen Z spent two years cooped up in their own homes during the pandemic. It does not take a genius to figure out what those two phenomena does to an entire generation.
You may be interested in reading https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bowling_Alone
There’s a lot to blame - dual income households, suburbanization, religion declining in popularity (religious communities are communities)
Decline in local communities sounds like a natural result of mass communication and globalization, imo
Eh there are a lot of factors, including how your city is designed. Car centric cities usually have less sense of community than cities with good transit or walkability. This is because nobody chats with the person next to them in traffic but some people will chat on the street or on the train. But on the flip side, car centric small towns can have a lot of community, mostly because the place is so small everyone kinda knows everyone and most people rely on the same businesses.
Whatever passes for teena… sorry, young adults these days are nothing but braindead NPCs that live online and think chapgpt is their friend. Every generation is worse that the previous one. Look to Japan to see how the west will be in 10 years.
Every generation is worse that the previous one.
Literally every generation ever
