It’s funny how this post is just a greentext story about a guy trying to talk to a girl in class. But some of the comments are negative or have such divisive vote ratios: assume bad hygiene or “Seems like an appropriate response to a man who takes a womens studies course to try and pick up women”
Am I the only one that’s surprised that the comments are so negative? The interaction from the greentext seems like a somewhat “standard” thing to happen in one’s life
assume bad hygiene or “Seems like an appropriate response to a man who takes a womens studies course to try and pick up women”
I gotta say, I never had any of these problems in college. And I won’t even pretend I had great hygiene or particularly good social skills. The trick with college is that 19 year old girls also didn’t have great hygiene or well-developed social skills. We were all a bunch of clueless, fumbling, young adults trying to figure each other out.
Let’s set aside the fact that OP is probably lying. When one guy gets ostracized by an entire classroom of other students, it’s safe to assume one of two things:
The classroom is full of bigots who hate This One Guy for a very particular cultural reason (maybe you made a mistake going to South Confederacy Technical College as a black guy looking to meet white chicks)
The guy is so universally obnoxious that he can’t get the time of day from the second biggest loser in the room
Am I the only one that’s surprised that the comments are so negative?
If it was posted on anything but 4chan, maybe. But anyone who knows the reputation of the average 4chan user can come up with a host of reasons why people are avoiding him like the plague.
The trick with college is that 19 year old girls also didn’t have great hygiene or well-developed social skills. We were all a bunch of clueless, fumbling, young adults trying to figure each other out.
Brother, ain’t this the truth.
I didn’t make any friends with my same-age classmates just by casually talking.
Then I went to night classes with full grown adults and i was invited to dinners and birthday parties immediately.
It does seem to be a very 21st century thing to treat an unwanted romantic conversational overture as a form of assault.
I suspect it’s even more so with terminally online people who are too socially awkward to be able to just brush someone off and move on, without being haunted by it for the next four decades.
I get that sometimes there are men who go too far and make a situation untenable, and absolutely fuck those guys, but overall I think we’re going in the wrong direction in society where people just don’t talk to each other any more.
Try calling anyone under 30 on the phone. They also think you are assaulting and traumatizing them. Or just ask someone a direct question to their face, however innocuous…
Everyone is terminally online now. And asking them to give you their direct one on one attention is considered demanding and rude. Everything has to be a text or a chat. Half the time when you interact with people IRL, they are on their phones. I see so many couples at bars now who are just… sitting there together on their phones.
I have a dog. She loves people and likes asking strangers for pets. People over 40/50 are happy to chat me up about my dog, ask me what her name is, make a comment about how cute she is. People under that age look like I am attacking them if I try to socialize with them about me dog. They just want to pet her and run away asap. they don’t ask me what breed she is, what her name is, or anything. They avoid all eye contact or conversation with me. It’s insane. Male or female.
People generally only want to socialize with people they already know and they primary want to do it via group chat or discord. Everyone and everything else is ‘scary’ or gives them ‘anxiety’.
Hell I told a person in line at the book store a few months ago she and it was really good and I’d read it I hope she enjoys it. She looked at me with daggers in her eyes, didn’t smile, said nothing. She was clearly around 30 too. It’s insane. 5-10 years ago that person would have been like ‘oh cool thanks! yeah I’m excited’. I remember being able to talk to people in book stores… about books. Nowadays… nope you are assaulting/attacking someone if you talk to them about books in a bookstore. Unless it’s an employee.
Whoa there frend-o, that’s a yikes from me. I may be a neurodiverse no-pussy guy from Lemmy, but I played Magic The Gathering at the comic con once and while I was explaining the cards to this girl, our hands accidentally touched and she laughed.
It’s funny how this post is just a greentext story about a guy trying to talk to a girl in class. But some of the comments are negative or have such divisive vote ratios: assume bad hygiene or “Seems like an appropriate response to a man who takes a womens studies course to try and pick up women”
Am I the only one that’s surprised that the comments are so negative? The interaction from the greentext seems like a somewhat “standard” thing to happen in one’s life
I gotta say, I never had any of these problems in college. And I won’t even pretend I had great hygiene or particularly good social skills. The trick with college is that 19 year old girls also didn’t have great hygiene or well-developed social skills. We were all a bunch of clueless, fumbling, young adults trying to figure each other out.
Let’s set aside the fact that OP is probably lying. When one guy gets ostracized by an entire classroom of other students, it’s safe to assume one of two things:
The classroom is full of bigots who hate This One Guy for a very particular cultural reason (maybe you made a mistake going to South Confederacy Technical College as a black guy looking to meet white chicks)
The guy is so universally obnoxious that he can’t get the time of day from the second biggest loser in the room
If it was posted on anything but 4chan, maybe. But anyone who knows the reputation of the average 4chan user can come up with a host of reasons why people are avoiding him like the plague.
Brother, ain’t this the truth.
I didn’t make any friends with my same-age classmates just by casually talking.
Then I went to night classes with full grown adults and i was invited to dinners and birthday parties immediately.
It does seem to be a very 21st century thing to treat an unwanted romantic conversational overture as a form of assault.
I suspect it’s even more so with terminally online people who are too socially awkward to be able to just brush someone off and move on, without being haunted by it for the next four decades.
I get that sometimes there are men who go too far and make a situation untenable, and absolutely fuck those guys, but overall I think we’re going in the wrong direction in society where people just don’t talk to each other any more.
It doesn’t even have to be romantic.
Try calling anyone under 30 on the phone. They also think you are assaulting and traumatizing them. Or just ask someone a direct question to their face, however innocuous…
Everyone is terminally online now. And asking them to give you their direct one on one attention is considered demanding and rude. Everything has to be a text or a chat. Half the time when you interact with people IRL, they are on their phones. I see so many couples at bars now who are just… sitting there together on their phones.
I have a dog. She loves people and likes asking strangers for pets. People over 40/50 are happy to chat me up about my dog, ask me what her name is, make a comment about how cute she is. People under that age look like I am attacking them if I try to socialize with them about me dog. They just want to pet her and run away asap. they don’t ask me what breed she is, what her name is, or anything. They avoid all eye contact or conversation with me. It’s insane. Male or female.
People generally only want to socialize with people they already know and they primary want to do it via group chat or discord. Everyone and everything else is ‘scary’ or gives them ‘anxiety’.
Hell I told a person in line at the book store a few months ago she and it was really good and I’d read it I hope she enjoys it. She looked at me with daggers in her eyes, didn’t smile, said nothing. She was clearly around 30 too. It’s insane. 5-10 years ago that person would have been like ‘oh cool thanks! yeah I’m excited’. I remember being able to talk to people in book stores… about books. Nowadays… nope you are assaulting/attacking someone if you talk to them about books in a bookstore. Unless it’s an employee.
Lemmy is filled with incels who are in denial. It’s kind of like how the most rabid homophobes are closted gays.
Whoa there frend-o, that’s a yikes from me. I may be a neurodiverse no-pussy guy from Lemmy, but I played Magic The Gathering at the comic con once and while I was explaining the cards to this girl, our hands accidentally touched and she laughed.