one of the craziest¹ things my dad told me was the story of how he had a cousin who he had a strong feeling was intersex, but nobody in the family ever talked about it. this person was raised as a boy and lived as a man as an adult, but had unusually wide hips, noticeable gynecomastia, barely any facial hair, and retained their high pitched voice. some time when they were in their early twenties in the 70s, they moved to NYC (they were able to do this because they were from the rich side of the family² that could basically buy a visa), and nobody ever heard from them again. he just randomly told this story on a family trip to my parents’ home country some years ago. sometimes I remember it and it makes me think about the hypotheses that being trans or intersex has a genetic basis.

Drinking beers with my dad at his vacation house and he just randomly drops…

what is it about boomers and being in mode that makes them spill all kinds of tea?

¹not in the sense that I’m shocked this was a thing, rather that I would have never expected my dad to talk about something like this

²another crazy thing I would never have expected from hearing how my dad grew up and seeing how my relatives who are still there live