• LeylaLove [she/her, love/loves]@hexbear.net
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    9 days ago

    A lot of these people got radicalized into being incels by 4chan, a place where there are communists, albeit reactionary ones, but they had exposure to a lot of the same things that I did and still turned out that way.

    Shit, the incel I knew personally even came out as a trans woman for a short amount of time. These people aren’t stupid, they understand they have some level of agency over their life, but it’s because of dipshits like you giving them the pass to say they have no agency over their life they can pretend they don’t.

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      9 days ago

      capitalism goes rampant every single day, worsening conditions for everybody, severing all human connections, but yeah just SELF IMPROVE YOURSELF OUT OF IT JUST GO OUT INTO THE NONEXISTANT SOCIAL FABRIC

      I JUST BIT MY HAND TILL IT BLED

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        Okay, I’m a schizophrenic alcoholic, I have all the excuses in the world to self isolate and hate people. But even when I was drinking up to a gallon of vodka a day, I still had the option of going to meetings, going to therapy, getting on psych meds, being friends with my coworkers, ect. Acting like there’s “NOTHING WE CAN DO CAPITALISM RUINED EVERYTHING” is the self defeatist mindset that made me an alcoholic. So your speech is stupid and causing psychic damage to everybody that reads it.

        Also to counter you mentioning me getting therapy and other such help is “privilege” I got that for free. There are still programs to get help for free, you just have to actually seek them. They still suck and are clearly held back by capitalism, but they exist. There is no excuse not to work on being a better person for your community and those around you other than not giving a fuck. I learned that from the immigrants I work with in kitchens that have 3 full time jobs and families they still take care of and spend time with.

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              9 days ago

              That was obviously wrong I’m sorry. It’s just that my loneliness obviously doesn’t stem from my lack of status or from my poverty since even people mich lower on the social ladder have a romantic life which means all my problems are my own fault and I should feel ashamed for having them which is what I meant to write sorry I was having a panic attack

              • LeylaLove [she/her, love/loves]@hexbear.net
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                Not all your problems are your fault, but they are your responsibility to deal with. That’s the first thing I learned when I was in rehab. It’s not my fault I’m an addict, that’s a disease that’s entirely out of my control. It’s not my fault I’m schizophrenic. But it is my responsibility to manage the issues that arise with those conditions.

                In the same vain, it’s not necessarily your fault that you have a hard time socializing with other people, but it is your responsibility to manage those issues.