Watching Y’all make fun of people for being virgins or calling people virgins really hurts.
Posting here on an alt because my normal username can be linked to me in real life, but I post here daily. Most of you have probably upvoted my posts at one point or another. But yeah, I’m old, and I’m a virgin, and while it doesn’t bother me much anymore, it’s really bad praxis to call people virgins as an insult or to make fun of them for being virgins. Incels are bad not because they are virgins but because they just blame women for their cause. Make fun of them for their shitty beliefs, not because they are virgins.
I think for a lot of us we still hold on to the capitalist idea of success that has been handed to us. That we need to have money and a job and a partner and kids and all that to be seen as good. And that’s not possible for a lot of us. I know that’s not possible for me I’ve been unemployed for years at this point. So we make fun of them for believing in the system but still not having it. I think it’s right when people point out here that the things a lot of the alt-right are mad about are rightful things to be mad about. It’s just that they then blame them on the (((globalists))) and muslims and immigrants and SJWs when really it’s capitalism and actual rich people.
But seriously, that’s all I have to say. Please think before using virgin as an insult. It’s just a state of being, that of having not had sex, and every single one of you were a virgin at some point in time. Thanks for reading. I love all y’all anyway.
My formative sexual experiences have been so awkward and spiritually unfulfilling that you should have looked down on me for losing my virginity more than when I was a virgin. It’s neato-burrito to fuck, it’s a tool for bonding with a partner, but I’d never boast about it. It’s not an achievement, it’s not redefining anything, and it’s not cool.
In fact, it wreaks havoc on my nerves because it’s a risk and trust thing. I spend time worrying that I’m not being adventurous enough, caring about their pleasure enough, that I have enough energy, and I make enough eye contact. I have a sinus infection right now and I’m anxious about whether they’re going to be disappointed that I’m not able to put out this weekend (which I talk with them about).
When I was single, it transformed from looking at someone and thinking it would be cool to have them as a sexual partner to wondering if it would they would be worth the trouble of a sexual relationship because they’re cool enough otherwise.
Virgin is 100x better than imposing yourself on someone when you’re not ready to communicate well. That sentiment, while non-sequitur to the rest of the post, lies at the heart of what I think.