I think cishet people are prone to very gendered problems in relationships, and in general a lot of relationships from the outside do look terrible. But a lot of it is so normalised that it doesn’t seem particularly shocking.
But then I talk to people in queer relationships and realise once you pull back the veil of normative gendered relationships there’s a whole new layer of insanity and neuroticism in most people to deal with under that layer anyway.
“Healthy relationships” aren’t free of problems, they’re healthy because people put in work to maintain them, which includes staying on top of any long-term concerns and addressing new ones as they come up.
I think cishet people are prone to very gendered problems in relationships, and in general a lot of relationships from the outside do look terrible. But a lot of it is so normalised that it doesn’t seem particularly shocking.
But then I talk to people in queer relationships and realise once you pull back the veil of normative gendered relationships there’s a whole new layer of insanity and neuroticism in most people to deal with under that layer anyway.
“Healthy relationships” aren’t free of problems, they’re healthy because people put in work to maintain them, which includes staying on top of any long-term concerns and addressing new ones as they come up.
:yea: I agree with you on all that