I borrowed this idea from Ada, who made a great post on c/MTF about this. The discussion was very interesting and I wanted to bring it to a wider range of perspectives across the spectrum.
I borrowed this idea from Ada, who made a great post on c/MTF about this. The discussion was very interesting and I wanted to bring it to a wider range of perspectives across the spectrum.
Does that mean you are not scared about passing and theses other things “validism” is doing to us ?
I mean, I didn’t escape that. I feel performative femininity as a pressure, but I felt that as a negative. As something I had to do, because the societal norms told me that’s what I have to do.
But that isn’t the sole experience of femininity for most trans fem folk. By and large, other trans fem folk find empowerment in it too, they want to reclaim it and express it on their own terms. They find that understanding their relationship with femininity can help them understand more about themselves…
And it’s those bits I’m really talking about. Not the external pressure of femininity, but the internal relationship we so often have with it.
I see 😍😘 Thanks (again BTW),
For me, in internal its maybe easier and maybe in the same time wrong…
I’ve been “educated” in a conservative familial model.
So now that I’m “completely” isolated about that, and just listening my self about me and just myself, interacting more with my feelings in general without ignoring them, all of that for me, its my feminity.
But i really need my shoot of euphorya with external appearances. I’ve started to discover meself like that, like a lot here after all ^^"
I fear validism because I want it I guess.