I think I really needed to read this post. Thank you so much.

I’ve noticed this everywhere too and it breaks my heart. My wife has given up on finding support as the partner because the communities (even the super private ones) are full of this behavior of vilifying one or the other.

I’m hoping my wife and I sit down with a counselor ourselves soon.

All the love for you and your wife ❤️

Animals are wonderful companions that stick with you through everything. They love unconditionally and are surprisingly easy to talk to :)

I’m glad your dog has been such a source of love and happiness ❤️ You two must be incredibly close.

Wow this really resonates with me. My friends have helped me get through fire and hell. Probably the hardest point in my life and having friends wasn’t really a thing for me until I started to transition. Who knew I was an extravert?

But also you losing your discord server resonates with me as well as I recently had to leave a server where I connected with all of my close friends. It was the first home I had ever had that loved and accepted me as Olivia and I had to walk away for my own mental health.

Well Téa, it’s nice to meet you and I’m happy to hear you’re able to be your true self with your friends! Hold them close because it sounds like they can help you get through anything ❤️

My man boobage did :P

Full on woman chest now though which. Is. Amazing 😁

Congrats on the weight loss! That’s amazing and I hope you continue on your trajectory ❤️ it’s amazing what happens when we take care of ourselves huh? 😉

And besides HRT, getting laser done on my face has been the most affirming and best decisions I have made for myself ❤️ I’m about 4 sessions in

Oh my god that’s awesome! Also getting laser done on my face (4 or 5 sessions in? 🤔)

And my hair is also really curly and growing out! My stylist says curly and thick hair like mine tends to grow outward before down so getting it shaped often is important 🤷🏻‍♀️

Happy to send you a photo of my hairs journey thus far if you DM me 😁

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Keep walking towards that bit of light. Even if it feels like it’s getting further away.

One small baby step at a time.

You’ll get there and I’m sorry you’re not where you want to be yet ❤️

I. Love. This. 😅

I am hoping so! And even if I slip, that’s okay because I’ll be able to get back to this point. I know it exists now :3

It’s really fucking hard and seems to be person dependent. For me, self care helps a great deal. Trying to be as put together as I can helps me feel like there is less for me to focus on and nitpick.

I can’t go into a weird dysphoria spiral because I haven’t shaved my face in a few days if I shaved last night for example.

Finding friends and staying in touch with them has been very important for me. Especially those that don’t fall into the codependent habits I’ve always been susceptible to. I’ve learned what healthier boundaries look like just by having friends that naturally have them in place and being open to why they have them in place.

Therapy is also a huge one. I’ve learned that I need to prioritize my own health and happiness above others. Something I would always neglect until I was past burnt out and in the more serious side of despair.

And finally, learning to stop comparing myself to how I want to be. Learning to be happy with where I am right now on my journey vs why I’m not where I want to be.

It’s a long difficult journey, and I had to do each bit in steps. I’m still not where I’d like to be (but not upset with myself for not being there yet 😉) and have learned that everything in life is a journey or transition. Have to embrace it a day at a time the best you can and don’t beat yourself up for having bad days/weeks/months/years

Good luck ❤️

Hehe. I saw your application come through the other day 😉

Might just do that :P

Orchi is probably my first surgical step.

Sounds cheaper than current surgical options 😁

I am working on gathering together all my resources and teachings through my own voice training with a speech pathologist.

Once I have it together I will send you a message ❤️

Not a weird answer at all! Being your own best support is a dream that most do not end up fulfilling.

Be proud of yourself Keris, you’re a lot closer to that dream Keris than you realize ❤️

I see it and I know everyone here and in the chats do as well 😘

This is so heart warming to hear! Thank you for your input, your husband sounds like a keeper for sure! ❤️

And I love you Emma! I see you realized I was talking about you 😘

Thank you for being such a huge support for me. Even when I struggle so much. You’re my absolute best friend and mean the world to me!

We will take on this world together 💕

Personally, my biggest support has been my wife who has been with me every step of the way. Even the steps that terrified us both.

But also, I have found my family that I have been searching for my entire life. I found them here and on the blahaj matrix chat rooms.

I hope they all know just how special they are to me. They’ve given me a space to be myself and I feel like I finally fit in somewhere.

When I say they’re my family, I truly honestly mean that.

There is one special person that I’ve met here that I know for a fact will always be a part of my life. I wouldn’t trade them for the world. ❤️

Matrix has been a home to me as well, hence why I’m responding 3 days late 😅

But I know you have a friend in me :)

Good luck! They’re out there! Just have to find them :)

And all who are considering Emma’s request for friendship, she is amazing! And a fantastic person to talk with ❤️

Troy and Abed in the moooorrrnnning!

Yep, you’re a really awesome person! Love those names. And I would bet money Keris would be so happy to have a little kitty door so they can visit her. She adores cats.

I can not express the gratitude I have for you. Keris seemed to be in a desperate situation and I think you are going to be such a positive influence on her life as she moves forward.

From the bottom of my heart, thank you. Youre a modern day underground railroad safe haven for us trans people who just want to live our lives.

The world needs more people like you and your family. ❤️

Take care and again, thank you for saving a close friend