Keeping it in perspective helps.

Here’s an example. Erin Reed just released her latest anti-trans legislative risk map. I mentioned it to my partner, with some unease over our next planned road trip to Denver, which crosses a number of the worst states. My partner told me “hmm, ok, but you know even in Florida and Tennessee trans people are surviving and living their lives.”

It’s a good point. I don’t want to feel unwelcome in my own country, I don’t want to become a recluse because it’s safer. I don’t want to give in to fear. The reality is right now, most Americans aren’t really energized or concerned about trans issues – which is both good and bad. They are largely unaware of laws targeting us, and don’t give significant thought to our existence.

I think back to my recent trip which crossed Kansas, Oklahoma, Texas, Missouri – all really bad places for trans people – I never had any problems there from anyone. I didn’t go looking for trouble, but I never felt directly threatened either (except by their politicians).

Bad news is bad, but we all find ways to survive.

I’ve found that being active helps. Like physically active, whether exercising or housework, hobbies, anything that involves focus and movement. That tends to elevate my mood and distract me from the worst doom-and-gloom feelings.