• Transfem enby
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Trans rights are human rights!

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Cake day: September 8th, 2023

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  • I’m moving in with a trans roommate soon, and I’m going to follow her lead. Basically make lots of connections in the local queer and kink communities, where people tend to be more open-minded. Put yourself out there, attend events, engage, take chances, be a part of the community.

    Reconsider your options and desires, experiment. I am close to starting my first polycule. Five years ago, I wouldn’t have believed that. Really exciting time.

    I will have sex with cis people, but I suspect my heart can only truly belong to other trans people <3







  • That is what my therapist says. It’s true, and it’s rational way of looking at things.

    But damn. When I think about living alone, and I see and hear so many people who live with their s/o or roommates, I don’t care in how many other ways their life may be a dumpster fire. Some needs are just basic and common to practically everyone (even if they don’t realize that). Just one example - my life has many… deficiencies.

    I’m working on it. Tomorrow I meet a local trans woman who I might move in with as a roommate <3





  • Honestly I think that’s a large portion of it.

    They know if they treat us with respect, just let us exist, we’ll do so much better. And it’s our own choices and decisions that lead to that happiness. We face an obstacle and despite odds can overcome it.

    But we’re dealing with some thoroughly miserable, sociopathic individuals IMO, who can’t feel good until they know someone else hurts. They need targets, scapegoats – and here we are overcoming centuries of stigma. They see our gains as their losses, when in reality we can all do better.

    The more I think about it, this is the only explanation that makes sense for the irrational fear and hate toward trans people.



  • Well I haven’t transitioned yet, past-tense, but I started at age 36-37, which I consider “later.” Today is my third anniversary of beginning estrogen! <3

    My egg cracking process really spanned a decade as my identity evolved into who I am now. One of my earliest experiences was modeling an online avatar of myself, with some of my physical characteristics (tall, thin, blonde) but using a feminine body as the base. It really helped me think about myself and my future in a new way.

    I’m much more confident at this age than I ever was in my teens or twenties. Simply put, I could never have transitioned any sooner than I did. The confidence really helps lift me above the dysphoria, doubts, and fears of discrimination.

    The worst part of course was having to experience puberty and it’s slow fallout, now being mostly irreversible changes. And part of me mourns the years I will never have as a young girl, teenager, etc. I’m making peace with that, and exploring a pseudo-girlhood of sorts.

    It’s sometimes difficult balancing the responsibilites and expectations of adulthood with the need to explore, learn, and develop into my true gender, which might seem more fitting in childhood.

    Thankfully I’m not under anybody’s thumb now, and I’m building a support network around me. I only connect with people who respect me and my identity. No time for the haters.


  • My mom taught me to always wash dishes by hand. She hated dishwashers, because they would leave spots, and that wasn’t acceptable. For the longest tine, every dish I washed had to pass her inspection. If they looked anything less than perfect, she would point it out and/or rewash then herself. Eventually she trusted me enough to not double-check, and honestly my eyesight was better anyway.

    I have to this day never used a dishwasher.




  • Oh wow, no I don’t get a confidence boost from depression, really it’s the opposite. I start to eat away at myself, criticizing where I am, what I’m doing, who I am, etc. It’s a bad cycle.

    All the nihilism with none of the perks I guess lol

    I think one of the big things for me is that for a long time I’ve always wanted to feel in control.

    This part resonates the most with me. I absolutely “need” to be in control. That’s part of why I always avoided drugs, even alcohol. Why I spend so much time thinking before acting. Maybe part of why I avoid people. Meeting my partner introduced a lot of spontaneity in my life, after all they are a major influence that I can’t control. I started to relax my expectations, I’m not quite carefree or “along for the ride” just yet, but more flexible than I was.