[seeking input from people who use female restrooms]
Hello! I have been using women’s restrooms for some time now. Tonight however, will be the first time that I will be going out with some girlfriends where public toilets will be involved. Everyone I am going with knows that I am trans, and is supportive. My questions/concerns are:
- If I get up to use the bathroom, should I ask anyone if they would like to come with?
- If another woman gets up, should I offer to go with?
- If we are using the restroom at the same time, and I finish first, should I wait for them? If so, inside, or outside?
I’m mostly just wanting to act “normal,” and don’t want to unknowingly perform any social faux pas. Thanks!


I don’t know. I tried asking for a buddy a couple times when I was first coming out and super-nervous. Each time, the other person would give me an exasperated “oh just go to the bathroom”. Sigh.
Over time I’ve found I take a lot longer fussing with my appearance than others, so I generally don’t bother asking/offering anymore.