… in relation to the death of a fascist

I’m kinda assuming it was to resell products lol

I really like the way you reframed things. I also experienced repeated setbacks to getting bottom surgery, I know how devastating it is. Taking the time to shift your focus to areas of your life that do make you happy is really important.

Yes the great debator Charlie Kirk.

• “Women who have abortions should be killed”
• “The civil rights act of 1964 was a mistake”
• “Transgender people are subhuman and should have no rights”
• “Jews are replacing white people with black people”

None of what he said were arguments. They are just statements of bigotry meant to affirm and spread bigotry.

A dean being fired over the gender unicorn. What a time to be alive.

Cw: non-specific discussion of CSA, discussion of dismissal of victims and mental illness

Its worth noting that nothing they demand would help children in any way. Child abuse overwhelmingly happens at home, from family members. To protect more children from abuse the entire system needs to be restructured to actually prioritize child welfare. Better funded better educated households generally correlate with better outcomes for children. I mean abusive parents exist no matter household income of course, but a lot of child abuse and neglect is correlated with parents and family members who are stressed, mentally unwell and struggling to make ends meet. If child and family welfare was actually a priority in any way they would be funding social services and social assistance, as well as ensuring that good public services exist to support people and ensure good, and free, access to mental health care. They don’t do any of these things.

In the context of CSA specifically, believing children who come forward would be a good start. I’ve met a lot of people who weren’t believed when they came forward. Who’s family members actually protected their abusers and consistently dismissed that the abuse was happening at all, even when parts of it were happening in plain sight. Another crucial and extremely important part would be properly educating children about abuse. In order to know that youre being abused you have to understand what is happening to you. Comprehensive and early sex education gives children the language and understanding to explain what’s happening to them. It is legitimately proven to be correlated, poorer sex education correlates with higher rates of abuse and lower reporting.

Republicans oppose both of those things. They actually apply disgusting levels of dismissal to all victims of sexual abuse, child or adult. They entirely dismiss that adult female predators exist and that boys can and do fall victim to them. They treat the whole concept of CSA as something that happens in dark alleys, far away from god fearing nuclear families. But the reality is that sexual abuse in the majority of circumstances happens at home with people who are well known to the victim. Republicans are entirely unconcerned with those victims though, and are only interested in the ones they can exploit to further their white supremacist agenda. Hence they are very likely to dismiss victims of CSA by saying that theyre lying, especially if the perpetrators are politically useful to them.

They also oppose sex education of any kind. Its sickening honestly. They are aware of how important it is. They do not care if more children will suffer silently because of this decision. They’re at best indifferent and at worst see this as a benefit of the policy.

Given all that I stated above, you can see that attacking migrants doesnt do anything to protect child welfare. Nor does attacking queer people. Nor does vigilante style pedophile catchers. Policy change and systemic restructuring is what would help children. Caring about their welfare would help them. Republicans just know that “protect the children” can give them cart blanche to do whatever they want to whoever they want.

It largely wasn’t. For all that I have special interest in the city, it was objectively quite bad for many reasons. Not the least of which was the abysmal state of the plumbing and electrical. The place had major sanitation issues. It was also at bad risk of fire and collapse. It had to be torn down.

I believe they offered most of the tenants money to relocate. Kowloon walled city had been built specifically because the space it occupied was in a Grey area with regards to jurisdiction and administration. It was nominally belonging to China, but existed surrounded on all sides by British Hong Kong. The British refused to do anything there besides basic water/electrical/mail. And China couldn’t administrate there because they couldn’t physically reach it. Once Hong Kong was returned to China, there would no longer have been a purpose to Kowloon Walled City. So it was going to be torn down eventually. I know some tenants refused to leave as long as possible, but once water and stuff was turned off they capitulated.

Kowloon walled city was so incredible. I wish I could’ve seen it in person. Ive seen so many pictures and read so much about it. It was even used as a movie set after the tenants were relocated. It was so unique. Not that the concept is unique, slums exist all over the place. It was the confined area, the total lack of any administrative authority, and its incredible density that made it unique. Years ago there were a couple reddit posters who had either lived there or had gone there for school. Contrary to wider media narratives many of the people who were displaced from there actually regarded the city with a degree of fondness. The close proximity promoted a tight knit community.

Ultimately living there would have been likely pretty miserable, especially during the brutal Hong Kong summers. But something about the pictures of the dark alleyways with the distant sunlight barely peeking through the pipes and wires makes for such an interesting environs. It was famously served by only a single postman, and had few if any street addresses and a total lack of organizational structure. So he just sorta knew where everyone was, and how to get around its labyrinthine structure.

No of course not. We love corruption and soulless corporatism in Canada, just so long as it has a little maple leaf logo on it.

I dont really have anything else to add that other people haven’t already. I just wanted to say that everyone is welcome in this community regardless of the pronouns they use. If transfem feels like a label that applies, even partially, then this community was made to be a safe space for you.

Also, we as a gender diverse people don’t have an obligation to explain why we prefer the terms we do to other people. You dont have to justify using the pronouns you do here. Like if someone in an unrelated thread asked you why you use he/they and identify as transfem, in a gatekeeping way, we would take moderator action against them.

You are absolutely welcome to post here. :)

I appreciate the sentiment you’re expressing here. I work over the phone and get misgendered pretty well round the clock every day. I even give my pronouns as part of my opening, like “Thank you for calling, this is LadyAutumn speaking, my pronouns are she/her, how can I help?” My voice does not pass though so like. ~90% of the time I get misgendered anyway. It’s nice when I’m practicing my voice and do get gendered correctly more often, but its a lot of work to maintain that and I have long struggled with vocal training.

Its hard to explain to people the mental toll of being misgendered for 9 hours a day every working day. It makes you dissociate a lot. I usually dont bother correcting people unless they seem intent on misgendering me every single sentence. But, yeah. It wears you down. It messes with your confidence a lot. Like sometimes I look in the mirror after and it feels a little weird remembering oh yeah I actually do like who I am and like the way I look. Like being misgendered so consistently for so long just makes my brain foggy and makes me forget all the things I do like about myself. I manage alright and take care of myself, but somedays are still pretty hard.

People lack empathy of this experience a lot. I dont hate the people who unintentionally misgender me. I don’t blame them at all for the most part. I just assume they weren’t listening when I gave my pronouns or forgot or whatever. But whether its intentional or not doesn’t really make a huge huge difference in how it makes me feel? It’s like someone constantly calling attention to your worst insecurity that makes you feel powerfully misunderstood and uncomfortable. Thats going to hurt, whether the person doing so is doing it intentionally or not. I relate a lot to the way women with fertility issues describe feeling when asked about when theyre having kids. Like its not exactly the same feeling, but its that same thing with a really bad insecurity being called attention to by someone who is well meaning and oblivious. Doesn’t really hurt any less than if they were doing so deliberately.

Tried a few out before landing on my name. I went by another name for a couple months that just never really felt right. Then I found my name and every single person in my life was like “it’s perfectly you”. People still say that after they’ve known me for a while haha. I’m pretty sure I found the actual name just by scrolling through a name list. It jumped out at me right away and I was really really happy when I told my friends and they first started using the name for me.

I’ve read conflicting studies on this. Breast cancer doesnt have a single root cause, and several of the genes associated with developing breast cancer can be inherited by people who have a Y chromosome (which has been shown to significantly increase the risk). I believe current guidance after a trans woman has been on HRT for 3 years or more is to treat their risk profile as being equivalent to a cis woman with their genetics and family history.

My mother died of stage 4 breast cancer. So did my great grandmother, and one of my aunts. Consequently I have been getting annual checks on the recommendation of my doctors.

Studies have also shown that family history of breast cancer can and does translate to increased risk for cis men (still comparatively much lower than for cis women, but nontheless still present). Needless to say, if a first degree relation to you has had breast cancer it should be treated as a serious risk regardless of your assigned sex, its just harder to detect early if you have breast tissue. Which is why getting checked is important.

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Went to high school in a very small rural town. There was a time when someone snuck in a bunch of chickens and a raccoon in the middle of the day. That was a strange day.

A few things.

Firstly, OP specifically said “Ideally without disclosing I’m trans”. Your whole comment was unnecessary first off from the outset.

Secondly, you have grossly overstated medical necessity here. Hormonally trans women who have been on HRT are functionally much closer to cis women than cis men. Trans status is rarely relevant to any medical treatment that isn’t specifically about reproductive organs.

Thirdly, trans status is a matter of life or death in the vast majority of the world. Medical necessity, even if it were as significant as you’ve tried to portray it as, means nothing if you get arrested or killed.

I strongly dislike pornography, and absolutely agree that pornography has genuinely fucked with social perceptions of what healthy and normal sex is supposed to look like. It doesn’t by definition have to do this, but does so largely because of exploitation within the industry itself.

That being said, I am resolutely opposed to any attempt to gatekeep the internet in this manner. It’s really not about pornography. It’s about mass surveillance. Anyone with a VPN can effectively bypass these restrictions. Its the fact that the majority of people will not put in the effort to do so, and will more readily just let the app scan their face and note their identifying information. This has made tracking people significantly easier for the British government, and has opened the door to creating a legal precedent to control what kinds of content minors can access. Principally, it allows the restriction of certain political content from minors view. This allows it to function as a very effective propaganda tool.

I live for high waisted shorts and skirts. Also high waisted skinny jeans / jeggings? Incredible. High waist gives me such flattering hip definition. I dont wear mid/low rise very often.

Yeah. Increasingly reliable satellite internet really killed their bottom line over the last few years.