• BipedalPossum@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    50·
    19 hours ago

    I hope people dont see this and get discouraged, its not always that expensive. I also feel like something’s listed here are reasonable that she would get done anyway. Like hair cuts and whatnot which isn’t specifically nessecary only because she is trans. Yes being trans can be expensive just like anything else, but that is far from the only option. Please dont see this and be discouraged 😺

    • AltheaHunter@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      3·
      11 hours ago

      I agree. While The transparency is good to see, there are quite a few things listed that she would need as a cis woman to look like that. Underarm laser, tattoos and piercings, botox, lip filler, hair cuts and dyeing, nails, even the BA would be a requirement for most cis women to have boobs like that.

      I think this makes as much of a point about unrealistic beauty standards derived from wealthy celebrities/influencers as it does trans healthcare.

    • Chloé 🥕@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      221·
      18 hours ago

      we should still talk about how expensive and gatekeepy trans healthcare is. yes you can be trans without HRT or surgeries, but how many people don’t have them because they don’t want them, VS how many people don’t have them because they can’t have them?

      • dandelion (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        14·
        17 hours ago

        the numbers last I checked were something like around half of all trans women want a vaginoplasty but haven’t had it, but only around 10% have actually had it - so obviously the costs, the preparation, and medical gatekeeping are all barriers to many people getting the surgery they need …

      • dandelion (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        9·
        17 hours ago

        +1 to this, each transition is different and dependent on what is necessary - I know a trans girl who has no intention of ever getting an orchi, but would like to get breast augmentation.

        Vulvoplasty is also a cheaper and easier surgery than vaginoplasty that more and more patients are getting - I know a girl IRL who decided to get a vulvoplasty and not a vaginoplasty, she recovered fairly quickly!

        I wish I could get FFS, but have no intention of getting BA.

      • ImgurRefugee114@reddthat.comEnglish
        37·
        18 hours ago

        I’ve met hairy cis girls. I’ve met cis girls that were balding, cis girls that had flat chests, cis girls with chiseled jawlines, with a square torso, narrow hips, thin lips, a clit that rivalled micropenises.

        None of these things define what a woman is; artifacts of beauty standards and skewed sense of averages. There’s certainly ‘typically feminine’ traits many aspire to, but too many people conflate their ideal body & looks with gender identity IMO.

        • rumschlumpel@feddit.orgEnglish
          3·
          14 hours ago

          Hairdressers typically charge more if you’re a woman, even for the same haircut.

          Also, for many men the haircut in the post is literally impossible unless they get a wig or something.

          • FerretyFever0@fedia.io
            1·
            6 hours ago

            That’s true. The MoistCr1tikal cut is a bit more achievable, but still takes a long time to grow out like that. Very annoying.

            • rumschlumpel@feddit.orgEnglish
              1·
              6 hours ago

              I mean the big issue with long hair on men is that many men are balding or have thinning hair/early stages of balding. You can’t really make long hair look good like that, even if short hairstyles (by men’s standards) still look fine.