I pretty much agree. I tend to be a bit more critical and nit-picky about things, but on the whole I agree that for a queer show, this one is well done. Butler is definitely a presence on-screen, and a welcome one. I hope this show launches his career a bit.
I just need to finish the last episode, but it took me a minute to warm up to it, somewhere around half way it started to have my attention.
I don’t really know about fashion, but I do find it helpful to learn about your body shape and focus on the form and what is flattering or not on your body. For example, a lot of trans women have inverted triangle or “strawberry” shape because of their broad shoulders. Others have more of an “apple” or square shape if their waist is large enough (usually due to male pattern fat distribution).
Reshaping the body by losing and re-gaining weight is a good long-term project, but in the short term it’s good to know how clothes are going to look on you.
The reason cats can’t be vegan is that they cannot produce an amino acid called taurine, which is something dogs and humans can produce (but which we also get sometimes from dietary sources).
Most dietary sources of taurine are meat. This is why dogs and humans “can be vegan” but cats “can’t”. However, vegan taurine is made and can be bought as a supplement, both for humans (if you want to ensure you get some taurine in your diet), but also in properly made vegan cat food.
It seems to me then that cats can be vegan, just not without intentional effort to ensure proper supplementation of taurine. That is, they couldn’t be vegan in the wild (where the only source of taurine is meat) and you can’t just start to feed them a vegan diet without taurine and expect the cat to be healthy and survive.
In fact, cats fed a proper vegan diet tend to have better health:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10499249/
I think the question is really what you are feeding your “vegan” cat: if you have managed to find (or make) a properly fortified vegan cat food it is theoretically possible to feed your cat a vegan diet.
This all feels a bit like the “controversy” around feeding young children and babies a vegan diet: done poorly it can be catastrophic (pun not intended), but it’s entirely possible to have a healthy vegan diet when enough effort is put into ensuring nutritional needs are actually satisfied.
That said, I also know of two other vegan responses:
That’s awesome, thanks for sharing! ❤️
🫂 we love you - take care of yourself!
so happy to hear that - incredible! 🥰
aww, glad you’re feeling gender euphoria - if you have the time, I would love to hear more details 👀
Sorry you got COVID, tho - that sucks. It seems like everyone I know is getting COVID right now.
damn, that’s brutal - it sounds you you need to take care of yourself! 🫂
I started progesterone yesterday and it’s already giving me better sleep, allowing me to sleep a little more deeply and longer than before. I had been having trouble even catching up on sleep on the weekend because I was just doing estrogen monotherapy, I would sleep like 6 hours and the body would wake up and I couldn’t fall asleep, even if I felt tired.
Busy and focused on work. Every day I feel exhausted, I’m not going to bed early enough. 😪
There are more carbs than represented in that radar chart.
You can re-use desiccant silica packs that are commonly used in retail & food packaging. You can dehydrate them by putting them in the oven. White rice can similarly be dried out in the oven and used as a desiccant.
Well, not having dysphoria when you look in the mirror is a major win.
A term like “dysphoria” is often amorphous, so I’ll try to clarify what I mean: when I look in the mirror I can’t see a woman or girl, even when other people claim to see a woman or a girl, and this makes me feel bad to varying degrees. I was so used to the way I looked that even though if you asked me I would say I don’t like the way I look, I wouldn’t have thought I hated it actively, I was just used to it.
Since realizing it’s not normal to never feel good at all about the way you look (in conjunction with a lot else, like a consistent and inexplicable preferences to cross-dress full time when at home), I realized I might be experiencing “dysphoria” and started to transition, and after between 3 - 5 months on hormones I could look at photos before transition and current photos after HRT and see that the post-transition photos were more “me” and also more feminine.
(TW: suicidal ideation)
Once I had this awareness that I might have dysphoria, it was like a floodgate opened, and seeing myself in the mirror went from a kind of accustomed indifference (like a background suffering I found easy to ignore) to a kind of crisis which made me feel suicidal and I would have to pragmatically avoid mirrors or looking or thinking about the way I looked.
I would say now I have less extreme dysphoria, and it seems like moustache and beard shadow are major triggers of feeling despair about the way I look, but there have been far more moments where I have felt good about the way I look as well.
Anyway, I can’t tell if my self perception will ever “click” into place and I won’t “undo” my gender when I look in the mirror (a bit like how my perception doesn’t seem to “undo” my gender when I see a fuzzy reflection of myself, e.g. in the microwave or my turned-off phone), but I have doubts that this will ever happen. I know it does for some people. I wonder if it would take FFS for me or not, but I worry even with FFS it will just be a small half-step closer, but not all the way. It seems like so many trans women I know about still feel this way about their face even after FFS, while others seem to report being able to just see themselves in the mirror and feel it’s entirely normal. It sounds like maybe you are in this latter case, someone who looks in the mirror and no longer experiences “dysphoria”?
Yeah, transfem folks get the same sort of treatment whenever “male socialization” is brought up, as though somehow trans women are still really men because they were socialized to be men.
It’s hard to communicate generally while still being sensitive to the nuances.
I do think some behaviors can be influenced by social and cultural factors, and while this doesn’t prove the “male socialization” myth that transphobes appeal to is right, it is still a relevant factor in other contexts.
The cultural attitudes about gender can be like invisible walls that shape our social environment, it informs what we feel we can or can’t do, and while we all have to navigate that, its trans people who are forced to transgress those social boundaries and thus we should be familiar with them.
I agree the comment was probably well-intended, but I also understand how anything remotely close to implying sameness between trans men and cis women is ick.
Finally got my insurance company to update my name, and now I don’t have to out myself every time I talk to a medical provider on the phone, show up to an appointment, or pick up a prescription, etc.
Not that I’m fooling anyone in person, but my voice seems to pass well enough on the phone and it can be awkward sometimes to explain I’m actually <deadname>.
I felt the same way until I read Paul Lockhart, starting with his essay: A Mathematician’s Lament.
Lockheart’s Measurement and Arithmetic were both joys to read.
I also really enjoyed reading Morris Kline’s Mathematics for the Nonmathematician, which brought in relevant historical and humanistic context to the discoveries and major developments of mathematics, which then made me feel much more motivated to learn about the math (whereas in a classroom I would be given a formula or concept and then I had to memorize it for an exam with no sense of why the math was beautiful, important, relevant, etc.).
It’s hard to repair the relationship to math, but I promise you it is possible.
I assume they are referring to the perception that some (most?) trans men are raised with the social pressures & expectations put on girls and women, and thus whatever social forces that discourage cis women from being in tech also discourage trans men from being in tech?
There’s a lot to unpack there and plenty of ways it paints an inaccurate picture, but I assume that’s the gist of it.
I think the dysphoria distorts my self-perception, certainly about my own voice but I think also about the way I look. The only time I like my reflection right now is little glimpses I see in the reflection off random surfaces like the microwave or my phone screen when it is off. The fuzzy image is better, but a mirror makes me sad.
How long did it take to get to that point? I’m 7 - 8 months in and it feels like I’ll never not see every little detail that makes me not pass 😭
yes, that has been my experience too - T made me sweat so much, and the sweat was gross and more smelly. It’s surprising to me that some people wish to be men, I have the bad habit of assuming everyone would want to be estrogen dominant, lol - who wouldn’t want to smell good and not sweat through your sheets?
This advice seems to assume the person is going to be unhoused because of their family, which may be reasonable, but I couldn’t tell from the OP whether that was actually the case.