For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.
On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.
From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.
Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!
Never, I’m very happy to be in cut. Just wash myself in the shower, and it’s more sensation and fun.
I’m circumcised and my three children are, too. However, I made that decision when I was still working my way out of a conservative upbringing. If I had to do it again, I wouldn’t and have left my children uncut.
There is no point to it. I just did it because it is considered strange not to in religious circles and I hadn’t broke away from that stupid yet.
If your kids want to be, let them make that decision themselves when they’re older. You can’t undo it.
I think its a lot less common in the US these days. My 6yo isn’t, and to my knowledge none of the little kids in the family are either. My friend has 3 little boys all uncut
Never ever regretted being uncircumcised. In fact, I regularly feel especially grateful to my parents for not getting me circumcised. If it were socially acceptable, I’d talk to more people about it and why it’s great not being circumsized. I would get me parents a “Thanks for not mutilating me as a baby” thank you cake.
GenX USAmerican here. I felt ‘different’ as a kid when we had to shower for gym class. Besides that, it’s been fine. Teach your son proper hygiene and it will be okay. I have never had a negative sexual encounter about it, or been otherwise teased by women. Circumcision is so much less common here than it used to be.
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If you aren’t Jewish, what reason do you have to do it to an infant that can’t possibly wait until they’re old enough to decide for themselves?
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Would you be struggling with the same decision to surgically alter an infant’s genitals if we were talking about your daughter instead of your son?
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Ok, so I’m a 38 year old uncircumcised Canadian male and on this issue, I have two opinions:
1.) Circumcision for moral, traditional, covenantial, or social cohesion reasons is child genital mutilation. Full stop, no second guesses…
2.) I have a larger-ish penis with a proportionally smaller frenulum and tighter foreskin. I am not bragging about size, I wish I was smaller because, when I get very aroused it can be quite painful. The foreskin frenulum pulls right against the tip of my penis and bends it down. If I were to excuse the frenulum and loosen my foreskin, I can imagine having sex when I am very erect would feel much better. This would be great because right now it feels like I’m trying to fuck with reigns on.
I have been exploring the idea of the loosening surgery, but obviously this is my choice, for aesthetic and pain management reasons.
The child has no choice, it’s abuse. I have a choice, it’s a medical procedure.
I’m circumcised, but I can give the answer to if I wish I were uncircumcised. I would only want to choose circumcision if I looked into it and determined it to be good.
There’s someone whose name I forgot who called this out as being barbarism at Harvard or Columbia before getting kicked out for basically giving the truth on circumcision.
Nope, not even once. I find the idea of circumcision really bizarre.
No why would I want to mutilate my dick
I’m circumcised and it has caused me so much mental anguish and pain. I’ve done the work of nurturing myself back to a mentally healthy place about it, but I beg you not to put another person in that position if you can avoid it.
Genital mutilation is a caveman practice…
This one of those topics where you will only get one side because the options are very very strong and anyone voice that deviates from a “no” will be silenced and they know it so they just won’t participate here.
I did as a kid because I was different from everyone else.
As an adult I’m so incredibly thankful that I didn’t suffer genital mutilation because of social pressure from people I couldn’t care less about.
I’m very happy being natural.
I’m circumcised. My young adult sons are. Looking back, I would have made a different choice for them. I don’t have a super strong reason for feeling that way except that I don’t have a good reason to have done it other than “tradition”. But that’s a dumb reason to do things.
While it is still more common than not in the US, the rates have been falling for the last 10-15 years.
