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  • autoexec@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    5 days ago

    Decided that I rather be visibly trans than hide my fem looks at home. However, I kinda hate standing out among others, which is already impossible not to do when Im 2 meters tall, even more so when I dont pass and likely never will.

    Any tips on gaining the confidence to continue, and getting into the mindset of not caring what others think? My local area is not that dangerous, but also not 100% friendly, which makes me over think this a lot.

    • Sasha [They/Them]@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      If you can find spaces outside of home where you’re comfortable being yourself, you can use it as an opportunity to learn that it’s safe to be genuine and then push things as you get more comfortable.

      I found outfits that suited me really well. And then I went out and felt self conscious anyway, but when my friends spontaneously complimented me, it started changing.

      Confidence takes time, but you’ll get there. The trick isn’t to not care what others think, it’s to only care about people what the right people think.