

If you can find spaces outside of home where you’re comfortable being yourself, you can use it as an opportunity to learn that it’s safe to be genuine and then push things as you get more comfortable.
I found outfits that suited me really well. And then I went out and felt self conscious anyway, but when my friends spontaneously complimented me, it started changing.
Confidence takes time, but you’ll get there. The trick isn’t to not care what others think, it’s to only care about people what the right people think.
It’s been a funny little year for me, but I think all the pain has changed me in some important ways. Glad to say I’ve been sober for ages now, I’m legitimately happy, stable and thriving.
This last week has been positive, me and all my friends are being evicted from my favourite space in the city today but we’ve finally got a new home lined up for our federation and not only should it be permanent, it’s so much bigger and better, we really lucked out. In just under a week, they’ll be voting to let my trans activism collective join and I’m unbelievably excited.
It’s really cool to say I’ve gone from a terrified anxious mess just trying to find a social life to someone who looks after people, helps keep things running and builds community. I’m proud of me, I’m glad I survived this year 😊