Once every couple weeks or so.
40’s. Once every 2 to 4 weeks, sometimes less. As an extrovert, this is killing (figuratively) me.
The big fall off is around 28-30 when most people are committing to families. After that you’re lucky to see them once and awhile.
once in a while
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Are people over 40 allowed to reply? Or is that too large of an age gap?
lol. 41 checking in. What are friends? I’m an introverted nerd. I hang out with computers.
I’m surprised OP has moved on from 21-23 year olds
it says 25+ i would assume anyone older 25 can answer.
OP’s post history is fascinating. You have to check out the modlogs of their deleted posts to get the full story. OP is obsessed with 21-23 year olds dating people over 30. They also seem very conflicted about their stance on it, sometimes defending those relationships and talking about their plans to write a story where the hero is dating an older person, other times saying it’s wrong and asking why such relationships in fiction aren’t called out as wrong, and saying heroes should stop it from happening
Oh, so OP got dumped for an older person and is fantasizing about getting a revenge older partner, and then whiplashing back to irrational hatred of the concept of a moderately age gapped relationship?
If this is the case, statistically, more likely OP is a dude than a gal.
Oh, and below this is another comment saying they’re obssessing over a 25+ yo virgin being worthless.
… Uh, yep, yep, that also fits this scenario.
Oh man, this is that one? I went through their history a couple of days ago when they made one of their weird posts.
Some stuff seems to be missing from the modlogs, I distinctly remember a post about Reed Richards and Sue Storm and their age gap
And then there is the obsession with virginity and being useless if you are one and over 25.
And street racing
You would assume that, but op has an obsession with virginity and the age gap in couples.
Whoa, you weren’t joking
I know I have friends, but they’re all technically my wife’s friends and their husbands. We probably socialize once or twice a month, depending on schedules. I love them all, but I have no friends that I socialize with 1:1. It’s always a group event. So in a way it feels like I have no friends.
The one friend that is truly and originally my friend, since middle school, I’ll see maybe once a month if I’m lucky and it’s usually a framily event with our wives and kids. And the time and distance apart feels wider than ever as we’ve gotten older.
Socializing at 40 is… different, and oddly lonely.
what i dont’ get about socializing as a 30-40 something… is how ultra focused it is on money and politics… and almost nothing else. every convo is politics or money related. in money include jobs, houses, cars, and expensive consumer purchasing. or travel/vacations.
i literally haven’t talked about movies/shows/games/books with anyone in like a decade. if i try to bring that topic up people get weirded out and go right back to politics, money, or travel.
all my dates these days only care about my money and my politics too. nobody asks me what i like to do in my free time or what my favorite things are anymore. i saw a date between some younger 20 somethings and they were listing their fav shows/movies and talking about them and I was so incredibly jealous. last time I went on a date where someone asked me about that stuff was like 15 years ago.
i had a date this weekend and all she wanted to know was my politics, my job, my family/education background and what kind of car I drive. It was degrading.
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Socializing at 40 is… different, and oddly lonely.
That’s exactly why one of the neighborhood wives reached out to my wife to see if her husband could join our dnd game or otherwise hang out; she was concerned because he didn’t really have friends that he ever saw or spent time with and felt like it was making him feel very lonely.
This last Saturday I invited him and another neighbor over and we had a side splitting time playing Sundefolk. Now we’re discussing him running a campaign for us.That’s the first new social group of people for me in the last 5 years but it’s pretty damn cool knowing there’s at least 2 other fun dads in the neighborhood.
Edited to add some wordy words
Becausebof various political shit happening around the world, my main friendship is gone
36, less than once per month
Scheduled friend time. I have a lesbian friend who has never seen Madoka Magica so we do weekly watch parties. My childhood bestie hosts a weekly Twin Peaks watch party and we theorize together. I have a couple friends who my wife and I do D&D with. I also have an autist friend who I churn butter with since that shit is boring af alone.
Idk why but having a dedicated “butter churning friend” is sending me lol. But that’s awesome for you!
I have no friends
All my friendships basically dried up and fizzled away by 25. Old friends from school got married, went down different paths than I did, etc.
I’m 38 now and I still occasionally talk to a couple of friends every few months or so (one from middle school and one from high school), but it never goes beyond casual conversation. I haven’t gone out with anyone besides the girlfriend in over a decade.
I feel like you more concisely summarized my early 30s life perfectly. Most of my old friends just went their own way and there’s no major drive to reconnect now. It’s just me, my wife and my son. Everyone else is basically coworkers and my own direct family.
You mean when I’m not depressed, isolated and withdrawn?
I don’t remember…
Me too except also unemployed… I don’t remember which came first.
Quite regularly, but only because I coincidentally moved into a house across the road from an acquaintance that became a good friend. We go over each other’s house for tea, or board games, or casual multiplayer video games.
If it weren’t for that proximity I’d say I’d very rarely spend time with friends. Life is busy. Work wants 40 or more hours a week, then you’ve got chores, shopping, study (if you’re doing that, I was studying full time for a year and a bit recently), then you just need time for personal hobbies and relaxation. On top of that, other people can be flaky, or just busy with their own things.
You mean at work?
Oh wait, am I supposed to actually see my non-work friends? I thought we just needed to text each other
What do you mean “text each other”? I’ve been thinking of texting one for a long time. That counts too, right?
once a month or three.
I don’t have any friends.
I will be your friend, friend.
30 here and all of my friends are people I met online. We chat every day, but only see each other for a weekend every few years at a convention. My friends are all younger than me with some finishing up college and others just having full time jobs. None have a wife and/or kids though (hell I’m the only one in the group with actual relationship experience with only 1 other having experience in just random 1 night hookups).
