I said I was old; I didn’t say I was sensitive. I just have my finger on the pulse of the aged.

And don’t get me wrong, there’s definitely a whole lot of active and open malice towards trans people. It’s a good idea to consider these kind things with suspicion first, because your safety may be in question. Even with this comparatively benign incident, there’s a safety aspect: if a trans person answers truthfully, well, that’s on record somewhere now, isn’t it? Who has or will gain access to that information, and what might they do with it?

Be careful. Make the decisions that keep you the safest. Don’t burn up all your mental effort on plain outrage. You will need it for action.