• rumschlumpel@feddit.org
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    4 days ago

    Can confirm, I’m German and haven’t made a new friend in over 10 years and most of the old ones live far away. I was kind of getting somewhere at one point in the middle, but that completely crashed and burned for love reasons.

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      3 days ago

      I used to make actual friends and have meaningful relationships in german internet forums. We would meet up somewhat frequently. Come to think of it I haven‘t had that since installing Discord. In fact I have not made a single friend on Discord in nearly 10 years. Everyone on there is too busy with themselves, so it‘s not that surprising I guess. There was a time when I was a trainee and made a lot of friends through room mates but that‘s all gone since I moved and the pandemic.

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        3 days ago

        Check if there’s a Disorcd server for your city, you might have to check if there’s a subreddit which also has a Discord server. I met so many people that way, hasn’t really lead to any friendships though.

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      3 days ago

      How old are, if I may ask? I haven’t made a whole bunch of new friends for quite some time now, but that’s fairly normal once you’ve become a wageslave. I just don’t have the mental strength for the upkeep of new friendships.

      Magic the Gathering is on the rise again, through which I could at least maintain some meetings with cool colleagues from work. So that’s cool I guess.

      • rumschlumpel@feddit.org
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        3 days ago

        Let’s just say I’m long out of college/uni. IMO, it’s one thing to keep to old friendships if at least some of them are local, but if pretty much all of them live far enough away that they need to stay the night to visit, that’s a big issue and more socially apt people will probably do something about it.

        I do have a lot of handicaps, though (shy, generally bad at socializing, several chronic illnesses that get in the way, very poor), so I’m maybe not that representative for the experience of the average person in Germany.