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Cake day: June 22nd, 2023

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  • First, the “alpha male” in a wolf pack is a myth. Not entirely the same thing you just said. Also, I’m not writing a sociological study. I am just saying “alpha”, and “sigma/ beta” to make a distinction among kids, with a term that people use. So, even if the basis was wrong, the terms are used and we can’t deny their existence. The guy that wants to be “alpha male” may be very well pursuing a myth. sure. unfortunately, he’s still behaving like that: punching the other kids (to whom he may be categorizing as “sigma/ beta male” even if it were not using the words) for not being male enough. Exercising their desire for a hierarchy. Based on a myth, yes.

    There’s a quote about Bell Hooks that says… something something. I won’t use it. Maybe the context is not entirely right.





  • Grew up in South America. Crying was treated with violence in many occasions. But it was more systematic and dependant on context… Like if the male kid having the tears was a popular one or after a lost football match, then was okay-ish or met with some surprise. If it was any other kid with “lower maleness” (e.g. other sport than football, or a kid that also happened to be sigma, or beta) then there was a high correlation of violence. This was excercised by other males, as part of a ritual to their own maleness. Yeah. Crazy stupid.




  • And there’s no goals (i.e. sex) or speed (kiss “now”). Just enjoy the company, talk through, see what are your feelings, don’t pressure yourself into anything (neither pressure the other.)… Love can be like the blossom, it takes its own pace and is all admirable.

    PS. Hope it helps. At least, this is what I tell myself, as I started dating someone recently after some months alone and a very lengthy relationship previously. So, I am kinda “fresh” and not knowing what to do. But this strategy has been paying off, and seems the most natural and healthy…