• candyman337@lemmy.world
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      The furry community is one of the most accepting and open minded communities because they understand what it’s like to be treated as outcasts and to be chastised for liking something that’s completely harmless just because it’s out of the norm. Most of the time it’s not even a sexual thing for them, it’s just something they like or something that makes them feel more comfortable out in public. It’s a way to make their exterior to be exactly what they want it to be. So in that way I think they’re pretty cool as a whole.

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          My guy, you’ve literally just described the human race. “Not all of [insert community here] is benevolent” rings true everywhere, not just furries.

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            That’s why is weird to start with the assumption that anyone is cool. Or really start with any assumption at all.

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              There’s no assumption in saying “furries are cool”, much in the same way one can say “anime is cool” and “robots are cool”. It is a statement of opinion, not fact.

              If you don’t find it cool, just say you’re not into it, but don’t try to gatekeep someone’s enjoyment of something by somehow refuting their opinion that something they enjoy “is cool”.

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                I’m not trying to gatekeep anything. I don’t care what you think is cool. Furries aren’t some form of media or object, they’re people. I don’t assume people are cool based on their hobbies.

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                  That’s quite pedantic. I didn’t mean that as in “all furries are cool, including Nazis, fascists and other assholes”, I meant more “I like the furry fandom”.

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                  Furries aren’t done form of media or object, they’re people.

                  “Furries” can refer either to people who are part of the furry fandom, or to the furry characters themselves.

                  It’s kinda weird that that’s the case, since usually, in furry spaces, the characters are referred to as “anthros” which is short for “anthropomorphic animals”.

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          Obviously, there are bad people in everything everywhere. That’s why I said as a whole not ALL of them EVERYWHERE, like come on man, no offense meant, but use some context clues

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          I was kinda upset to find out that a furry blogger I used to read and listen to back in high school, Two the Ranting Gryphon, turned out to be a pedophile and went to prison for CP. They also turned into a neo-nazi. 😔

          He was associated with the guy who was basically the reason there was no Califur in 2018.

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      I’m perfectly comfortable with taking it as far as “so long as it’s all consenting adults, it’s none of my fucking business, and I wish them all well.”

      If it’s not my thing, no big deal. Some people like feet, and it’s not my thing, so no big deal.

      Even if I find it personally gross, again, consenting adults, no big deal. Some people are into watersports, but hey, so long as they’re not leaving a mess or hurting each other, no big deal.

      We’ve got enough trouble in the world without also trying to police what adults are doing in their goddamn personal lives. I yearn for a day in which more people could accept the “it’s none of my fucking business” ethos.

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        “I do not like a certain subset of humanity because they are different than me and I feel safe punching down at them”

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          “I don’t think this particular hobby is cool” is not “I do not like a certain subset of humanity” and you are a clown for attempting such. If you’ve ever wondered why someone dislikes you, it is probably because of this behavior.

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            Unfortunately, that’s not what they meant.

            Woah, you put a lot of words in my mouth. I don’t mind them at all. I just wouldn’t say they’re cool. Thinking about it now, it’s weird to think anyone is cool because of their sexual preference.

            Turns out it was the bog standard “furries are sexual deviants” stereotype that’s existed since the early days of the internet.🥱

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                Except it’s not a straw man though, because the furry=fetish stereotype has a verifiable source of when it entered the mainstream culture from a pair of TV episodes in the 90s and 00s - the famous CSI episode and one from a similar show that I can’t remember the name of. These two painted furry conventions as basically sex dens filled with orgies of people in animal costumes, and that was the first time most people outside of niche parts of the internet had even heard of furries.

                Before furries, it happened to Trekkies. People said that people only liked Star Trek for the sexy green alien women. But it isn’t often that a fandom is treated like this and for this long. Anime had a similar but not quite the same stereotype, but that’s largely relegated to the really bad parts of the anime fandom.

                And it’s very similar to the pathologization of trans women as men who get off on the idea of seeing themselves as women.

                I’m not saying that they think that furries are sexual predators or something. I’m saying that the idea of furries being a fetish is a stereotype born from a malicious place that painted an entire minority as a bunch of sexual deviants for viewership on TV, and that they’re perpetuating that stereotype.

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          Woah, you put a lot of words in my mouth. I don’t mind them at all. I just wouldn’t say they’re cool. Thinking about it now, it’s weird to think anyone is cool because of their sexual preference.

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            Why is there this weird prudish subset of the internet that seeks to over-sexualize benign activities that make them uncomfortable.

            Furries are, at most, a place where a minority find it easier to express sexuality (such as homo-, bi-, pan-sexuality amongst others). This isn’t because it’s inherently sexual, but because they feel comfort and lack of judgment from their peers.

            It’s a shame that you find that kind of acceptance to be uncomfortable

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              It’s a shame that you find that kind of acceptance to be uncomfortable

              What the fuck are you talking about? I never said anything is the sort.

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                Nah you were just ostensibly judgy about a specific subset of cosplay enthusiasts. They put a lot of effort into the show. It’s a huge trigger.

                If, for instance, you were a large-hat enthusiast, you might be put out if someone decided you fucked kids because of your sombrero.

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            Dude, are werewolves the same as wolf-wolves to you? Because they are really not the same at all. It’s like saying a lemur is the same as a human. It is cognitively and anatomically very different.

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              Sure, but I’ve also seen plenty of content that is along the lines of “dog level of intelligence in caked up human body” (see: that slimy fucking “dog girlfriend” comic the one person posts to the comics community about once a week) and content that is “lets leave the anthro aspects on the shelf today” (Let me check my tag blacklist… pretty sure it’s tagged as “feral” on boorus).

              Maybe this guy is talking about anthro stuff, or even catgirls, and is just pearl clutching. But there are also some quite concerning subgroups under the furry umbrella (much like many large groups). Just saying.

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                Yea I obviously agree that when the ‘feral’ category is sexualized, it is unimaginably gross, at that point you are really just making gross zoophilic art and invading furry spaces with it. But normal ‘feral’ art is just about cuteness and the intellegence is often scaled to be on-par with humans (think like Fox and The Hound). Do you beleive that version of ‘feral’ is bad?

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            It is when you generalize an entire subculture based on an episode of CSI from 1999