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I spent more than is reasonable on farmer’s market strawberries, and goddamn it was worth every penny. And I got to pet someone’s puppy! Would have been a perfect 10/10 day if a random stall guy hadn’t misgendered me. 😔
It’s so frustrating because my dad had what was considered ‘long’ men’s hair where I grew up (past his ears), and that’s kind of where I usually like my hair length to be as well. And the misgendering drops down to 0% as soon as I get a hair cut! It’s nice that this is in practice a fixable problem, but I don’t want to have to constantly pull back from how I like presenting myself because it starts making others more likely to misgender me.
I generally keep myself clean shaven but may also go a day or two without shaving and have extremely obvious facial hair, so are you that unobservant? Have you decided I’m a cis woman with a hormone disorder or a trans woman? It’s very anxiety inducing, trying to both figure out what people are assuming about me and how/if I need to deal with it.
For all that venting, I actually do want to go back. That was one guy who didn’t know me and was only trying to be polite, so I do get it. It’s just one more straw for the camel, you know?
that’s so weird, being misgendered like that - I wonder if you’re right that they were trying to be polite if they thought you were a trans woman? Either way, I’m sorry 🫂
Thank you! It happens seldomly now, which I think is part of why it gets my goat when it does. Today I’m feeling pretty much over it and looking forward to going to the farmer’s market again 😊