• peppersky [he/him, any]@hexbear.net
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    8 days ago

    So you have been desired? So you have had someone who wanted to be next to you when you went to sleep and wanted to be next to you as you woke up. Nobody ever wanted to do that with me. Yes, I would much rather have a relationship that made my feeling spiral out of control than not have one and have my emotions spiral out of control anyway like they are doing right now. I don’t want to be single. I’ve been single thirty years. I don’t want to be alone, I’ll have enough time to be alone when I’m dead.

    I want someone to fill my void and to fill someone else’s void.

    I’d give the entire fucking world for a little bit of tenderness.

    • Hestia [she/her, fae/faer]@hexbear.net
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      8 days ago

      A relationship isn’t something you can achieve through desperation. The harder you try the more frustrating it will be and then when the right person finally comes along, someone you genuinely could click with, your insecurities and weaknesses will be cranked up to the max and will be on full display. You’ll end up sabotaging yourself.

      Put the romance on the back burner. Delete all your dating apps, they’re designed to bring you despair. Join some clubs, or find a job that allows you to maximize contact with other people. Make some friends. And eventually you’ll find someone who makes you happy.