I’ve not written anywhere that incel ideology is right or that it does good to people. It clearly does not. What I am saying is that incels are wrong and you and a lot of people on this website are wrong too when they talk about dating and love and relationships.

Like, obviously one should work though their negative feelings in the first place. But there are a terrifiying number of people who don’t do that, who still manage to achieve at least shallow relationships by concealing their shit and playing a part. Is that approach to relationships fucked up, socially and psychologically corrosive, and a sign of a more widespread social sickness? Absofuckinlutely. But (and again, we’re being amoral here) is it a marginally more effective individual approach to relationships than unconcealed hostility? Scoreboard says Also Yes.

I cannot even begin to say what a disgusting and untenable position this is. I have a thousand times more sympathy with an incel who cannot hide his misogyny and doesn’t get what he wants than with a man who can hide his misogyny to get his dick wet and just gets what he wants. I’d much rather the misogynist does not “play a part” in social reproduction. The incel does much less harm to the world than the regular misogynist does.