Jokes aside, with no offence intended, how can I as a person attracted to breasts and vaginas, know what i’m getting into when I’m talking to someone. I don’t want to lead someone on but at the same time i don’t want to be led on.
or am i confusing sex and gender again? I’m honestly trying but i’m by no means fluent on the topic.
I’m so glad you said breasts!! Come with me on an exploratory walk:
Let’s say you fall for a woman. You’re getting intimate and she stops you to tell you something serious. See, she hasn’t been honest about her body with you. She hasn’t dated in awhile and didn’t know when the right time was to tell you, but she wants you so much that it can’t be avoided now.
She had her breasts removed for an unspecified medical reason. You thought she had a great rack, but those were prosthetics. Despite her biological circumstances he happens to identify with having breasts and prosthetics make her feel confident and normal.
Has there been deception? Have you been led on? I don’t think so, I think this was this just part of learning whether you’re compatible with someone. Only you know whether the absence of breasts is a deal breaker for you, and you get to decide freely in that moment.
Sex: not binary, a lot more confusing the more scientific you make it. Can absolutely be changed. It’s coming up on being an outdated term pretty quickly, if not irrelevant already. Probably the least understood term by 99.999999% of people.
Gender: binary exists, a lot of people exist outside of it, too. Also dynamic and fluid. It’s the role you play, socially. A lot of people think it should be eliminated. I’m personally on the fence on that. (Bonus: gender expression: is not the same as gender. Gender is who one is, gender expression is how one does it.)
SexUALITY: may be what you’re confused on. Is defined by the term sex, but generally refers to the sex of you and the sex of who you’re into. Which, if you go by what “sex” means, gets confusing really fast.
So stop worrying about labels, go with the flow, and since life is too short as it is, stop letting society tell you things that you like are acceptable, and if you find it pretty and it feels good and you aren’t hurting anybody AND there’s consent of all parties involved, GO FOR IT.
I think I’m forgetting stuff here, but the gist is to stop being afraid and stop judging and hating. Accept your ignorance, accept humility, and stop being afraid of learning. Nobody’s coming to get you besides the fascists and maybe the tankies.
Ok my morning dump is over gotta wipe have a nice day.
Personally, i wouldn’t be too pleased to take a bird home and find out she has a penis twice the size of mine.
Jokes aside, with no offence intended, how can I as a person attracted to breasts and vaginas, know what i’m getting into when I’m talking to someone. I don’t want to lead someone on but at the same time i don’t want to be led on.
or am i confusing sex and gender again? I’m honestly trying but i’m by no means fluent on the topic.
Sex is defined by genetics
Gender is defined by you
I think if you’re interested in dating or sex, and you have preferences that are deal breakers. Ask for what they’re equipped with.
Similar to how if you’re planning on dating someone today and if have sex is important to you. You communicate that. And ask them if they are asexual.
It’s perfectly okay to have deal-breaking preferences for these things.
Good question.
Thanks for this, I think your advice is the most practical for a variaty of situations.
I’m so glad you said breasts!! Come with me on an exploratory walk:
Let’s say you fall for a woman. You’re getting intimate and she stops you to tell you something serious. See, she hasn’t been honest about her body with you. She hasn’t dated in awhile and didn’t know when the right time was to tell you, but she wants you so much that it can’t be avoided now.
She had her breasts removed for an unspecified medical reason. You thought she had a great rack, but those were prosthetics. Despite her biological circumstances he happens to identify with having breasts and prosthetics make her feel confident and normal.
Has there been deception? Have you been led on? I don’t think so, I think this was this just part of learning whether you’re compatible with someone. Only you know whether the absence of breasts is a deal breaker for you, and you get to decide freely in that moment.
Does that help?
I don’t think there was any deception because she has been straight up and honest. I think you’ve helped me to understand.
Sex: not binary, a lot more confusing the more scientific you make it. Can absolutely be changed. It’s coming up on being an outdated term pretty quickly, if not irrelevant already. Probably the least understood term by 99.999999% of people.
Gender: binary exists, a lot of people exist outside of it, too. Also dynamic and fluid. It’s the role you play, socially. A lot of people think it should be eliminated. I’m personally on the fence on that. (Bonus: gender expression: is not the same as gender. Gender is who one is, gender expression is how one does it.)
SexUALITY: may be what you’re confused on. Is defined by the term sex, but generally refers to the sex of you and the sex of who you’re into. Which, if you go by what “sex” means, gets confusing really fast.
So stop worrying about labels, go with the flow, and since life is too short as it is, stop letting society tell you things that you like are acceptable, and if you find it pretty and it feels good and you aren’t hurting anybody AND there’s consent of all parties involved, GO FOR IT.
I think I’m forgetting stuff here, but the gist is to stop being afraid and stop judging and hating. Accept your ignorance, accept humility, and stop being afraid of learning. Nobody’s coming to get you besides the fascists and maybe the tankies.
Ok my morning dump is over gotta wipe have a nice day.
Sex is what’s in your pants, gender is how you look.