Hi,

I’m a recently cracked egg, and I figure I might as well introduce myself here.

I made it to age 31 before I figured it out. I’ve been dating a trans girl for over 3 years before realizing that I also am one, so I’m coming into it with a lot of knowledge, and as soon as my mind was opened to it I very quickly became sure of it. On the plus side, that means that I don’t have any doubts about it myself.

So far I’ve told my girlfriend, therapist, parents, and some online friends. Mostly they’ve taken it well (My therapist and girlfriend were apparently expecting it before I realized it myself), although my dad has been somewhat resistant. I’ve been trying to convince him that it’s right for me, with moderate success. I think I will be able to bring him around, with some more time. I’ve been too chicken to tell others that I know IRL, so far.

Also… now is not really a great time to be transitioning, given the current state of the world, especially the US (where I live). I think I definitely want to go ahead with it anyways, but I’ll probably take some time before I pull the trigger on a social transition, and try to prepare some things beforehand. In particular, I want to do voice training in advance, and probably work on some fashion and makeup skills so I can immediately transition my voice and surface level appearance when I social transition.

I don’t know if my new employer (starting next month) will be accepting of it, either, so maybe I want to work that job for a bit to get experience and test the waters before I decide how to proceed. I probably want to get some experience from that job before I bounce from it, so it would be ideal if they are accepting.

  • Lumelore (She/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    If you want to take e, but also want to boymode until you’re ready to be publicly out, be aware that you may need a binder depending on how much breast growth you get. I myself tried to boymode my first few months on e and failed because my boobs got too big and people noticed.

    Also congrats on cracking your egg!

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      Currently my plan is to do my social transition all at once and to start HRT after that point. Maybe that’s naive, and maybe that will change, but for now that’s my plan.

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        My advice is to take steps as you feel comfortable to do so; there isn’t any wrong path. We all transition in different ways and really what is important is that you are happy.