• SkingradGuard [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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    22 hours ago

    It took me a couple of years to realize that she was having problems, and I wasn’t equipped to handle it in my early twenties, so it festered.

    This is why I avoid asking anyone out ever. I’ve got many problems and I can’t solve them, I’d rather not burden anyone so I find it best to be lonely.

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      18 hours ago

      Time is a good therapist. I think the pros outweigh the cons in these situations. There are plenty of people out there that do have the tools to be a good support system for people who need a little extra.

      I had to come to grips with my depression and a few other issues during my marriage. It’s made me a better person, and it forced me to put the work in. I did it for me, but I really did it for her. I love her so much and as cliche as it is, she makes me want to be a better person all the time. It didn’t happen overnight but I feel like I’m always making progress.

      Don’t sell yourself short. You deserve to love and be loved

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          16 hours ago

          I don’t fit in with “normal society” either. You just have to find the others.

          I’m not trying to be pushy or preachy, I just think anyone wanting to experience love should go for it. there are all kinds of people out there. Chances are there are a lot of people that feel the way you do, or people who are naturally good at lifting people like you up.