I think there are many thousands of folk in fields beyond IT that use it all the time. It’s by no means perfect, but for many of us managing teams or doing boring AF admin, working with procurement, writing user documentation or trying to navigate basic system configs then it’s immensely useful.

Turns out I only have one kidney. Went in for a scan of my bladder (which was fine), and the nurse doing the scan just casually mentioned it. I had no idea. I was 43 at the time.

My apologies, I hadn’t appreciated that - all the best

I hear you, but worth mentioning that most men have been in the presence of something stronger and aggressive, in the form of other men. From abusive father’s, older siblings, to the general school environment. Violence and the threat of violence is something men feel growing up and it doesn’t really go away.

I’m not saying that threat isn’t more acute for women, or minimizing that lived experience - when a man is trying to force himself onto you it must be terrifying and I know from my sisters and wife that it happens a lot, and often in more subtle and low-key ways than outright aggression (although that’s often the underlying threat).

But yeah… as someone who’s been beaten up a few times just for being in the wrong place at the wrong time, or wearing the wrong t-shirt, I’m under no illusion as to how dangerous men can be.

Yeah, hard agree on that. Many, many people have made poor decisions when inebriated. They’ve got over it and moved on. But when one person is sober it definitely feels like an abuse of power.

There was something about it I found obnoxious. It was just kind of lazy and, although the cast did a decent job, the writing was meh.

Oh, for sure. Once you’re in a relationship then there’s a whole world to explore, as consent is established. But the video (comedically/crudely depending on your own sense of humour) alludes to very early flirtation and the games people play, where a grey area arises as one party wants the other to believe that they are somehow reluctant to proceed (although they’re not), to somehow present the idea that they’re not usually promiscuous, perhaps to massage the ego of the instigator. The concept of ‘sweet surrender’ is explored in countless romantic works and is definitely a thing - and not something that should be conflated with rape, is I guess what i’m trying to put across.

https://youtu.be/6k0ZMPGFh9w

Thoughts on this?

Sex should always be 100% consensual. If someone says ‘no’, then you must stop. If you don’t then that’s rape as far as I’m concerend. But would you acknowledge there’s nuance in playful protest?

Also, there’s also a growing (and understandable) feeling that consent can’t be given under the influence of alcohol. However, where i come from our population would probably be half it’s size if that were always true.

Also, if you have sex drunk and regret it later, there’s an argument that the person you had sex with has taken advantage. That’s a tricky one to navigate.

I hear you. But then does the existence of some sort of higher purpose/unknown science necessarily imply everlasting life?

I wouldn’t say I heap them in together. At times in my life I have rejected a belief in anything ‘higher’, which fits your definition of atheism, although perhaps my mindset was closer to an agnostic atheist stance, which to me is more along the lines of ‘I don’t believe, but I can’t be certain as there’s a limit to my knowledge’, as opposed to being a strong proponent of the belief that there is nothing beyond death.

I think it’s a bit of a stretch to say it’s all baseless. It could just as easily be the passing down of allegorical tales — stories seeded by some guiding or controlling force countless generations ago in our collective development. There are even arguments for things like a collective consciousness or sub-atomic networks, suggesting that our linear experience of time might just be a way of processing information.

Honestly, who really knows? But speaking as someone who has oscillated between Christianity, Buddhism, and atheism in my youth, I’ve come to see atheism as just as much of a limiting dogma as any other belief system.

As a UK citizen at the ripe old age of 47, who has always been fairly left wing but has definitely become jaded with all politics and less engaged than ever, I can honestly say I’d never heard of the guy until this week.

However, from widespread media exposure this week, it’s hard not to conclude that he was basically one of the many grifters that seem to be riding high in the US. There seems to be club of them who disingenuously tap into the unfocused frustrations of many Americans, charismatically providing easy answers and appointing blame, seemingly motivated by nothing more than their own self-interest.

That said, I can’t take pleasure in seeing someone die. I haven’t and will not watch the video. I don’t think it’s a healthy to be entertained watching another humans life brutally end.

I get the need to be left alone. That said, when moving to a new city, I found work was actually a good place to meet people and some (but far, far from all) of my former co-workers remain life-long friends.

It may sound twee, but I feel that so many people not being neuro-typical is the spice in the mix of humanity. The best artists, creators, inventors, musicians, comedians, writers, poets, engineers, philosophers… are mostly neuro-divergent to some extent (on a spectrum, if you will).

I’m in my late 40s and I’ve only recently learned about ‘masking’. I assumed everyone had multiple personalities they wore for different people. Apparently not. I assumed everyone could clearly visualise things in their mind. I assumed everyone had a song playing in their head most of the time, as well as an internal monologue. Apparently not.

I get by pretty well. I’m undiagnosed with some sort of ‘ism’ I guess, but who knows. If there’s no treatment as such then there’s no rush for diagnosis in my case.

Some of these things are not like the others :-)

I fully agree. At this point I’d take my TARDIS back to Berlin in the summer of 1940 if I could get a free, all expenses trip.

I’ll see your Brighton and raise you Blackpool.

15 years, married for 13.

I think it’s a bit of a cunty outlook. I have some sympathy for the childfree brigade, as I understand society can make you feel bad (if you let it) for not having kids. But then again, I wasn’t a dad until I was 38 and never experienced any negativity for that decision. Quite the opposite, in fact.

Essentially I dislike any mindset that judges others for their procreative choices.

ITT: a lot of folk buying tech. Including me.