IME it works differently for different people.

Some folks float apart with grace, an amicable break and a parallel drift to a friend pace.

Some need to basically say goodbye, a hard break, then rediscover each other later.

Just know that at least half of that process is not something you can control. You can be supportive and kind. You can let them know you’re still in their corner if they ever need you in plenty of ways.

But sometimes what they need most from you is to no longer need you, and sometimes they need to make space for someone else for that new relationship to have a chance.

If you still want to attempt platonic right away: boundaries. My advice is to keep things light, especially if you have regular contact.

If you want a hard break, maybe put an event on the calendar to meet up, like tickets to see your favorite band next season.

For something in between, maybe occasionally send her stuff you come across that you know she’d laugh at, or replay the inside jokes, stories, adventures, mishaps, etc.

Regardless, maintain the boundaries you agreed on at the start, especially re: her love life. You are happy if she is happy. That it. If you can’t feel that deep down, for real, go for the hard break.

Yeah I have a few of those for the most secure stuff. Hard to beat! The USB-C one is the newest and I debated the choice but damn these days it’s great how it works with everything.

No need to do anything the hard way when you’re just starting out. The whole process with prep, safety razors, after care etc can wait. I’d also skip the disposable two blade razors.

Invest in a decent starter set of the modern 4 and 5 blade cartridge razors with the reusable handle and soap strips around the blades. They’re forgiving compared to everything else, which is perfect when you’re learning. Even if you want to try more trendy shaving equipment later, you’ll be grateful to have something fast and foolproof on hand when you’re in a rush!

As for technique tips: Any kind of soap will help the head glide, but obviously shaving cream is made for it. Light pressure is all that’s needed. Let the razor blades do the work.

Stretching the skin taught helps avoid irritation. Shaving with the direction of the hair to start can help your skin and follicles acclimate to the abrasion. Then you can try shaving against when you’re ready.

If we cut and run every time a big corporation “embraces” a new standard, just to lessen the pain of the day it’s inevitably “extinguished,“ we’d miss out on quite a lot.

This standard was open from the start. It was ours. Big corps sprinted ahead with commercial development, as they do, but just because they’re first to implement doesn’t mean we throw in the towel.

Also:

1. Bio auth isn’t necessary. It’s just how Google/Apple do things on their phones. It’s not part of the FIDO2 standard.
2. It works with arbitrary password managers including FLOSS and lots of hardware options.
3. Passkeys can sync to arbitrary devices, browsers, device bound sessions, whatever.

Yeah the moods in this thread, like

“[I don’t understand this]!”

“[I don’t trust this]!”

“[It doesn’t fix everything]!”

“[This doesn’t benefit me]!”

“[What’s wrong with old way]!?”

And like, all valid feelings… just the reactions are a bit… intense? Especially considering it’s a beta stage auth option that amounts to a fancy version of the old sec key industry standard, not the mark of the beast.

Yeah the counter-interoperability of proprietary expansions on FIDO standards sounds a lot like embrace extend extinguish to me. I know engineering standards generally require field revisions but these big corps have a track record of this behavior.

I can see how the FIDO standard’s dID requirement might be an issue at the org level, but even in the case of a fully custom/unknown rooted device they have provisions for using traditional security keys attached to one or more associated devices via USB/BT/NFC. Megacorp platforms might be first to facilitate adoption but the spec absolutely accommodates open provider integration.

I need to experiment with personal security passkey registration and authentication workflows to know how difficult it actually is in practice, but it looks like the equivalent of self-signed certificates are possible anywhere the user controls the stack like self-hosted intranetwork suites that are popular around here.

Thanks again for the write up!

I could see that. I’ve only found a few in the wild (mostly just enterprise, niche tech-related, and big platform web apps) but there’s probably some clunky implementations out there I haven’t suffered through yet.

For one, there seems to be this idea that if you lose your passkey you get locked out of your account forever.

True, plenty in this thread even. IIRC there’s usually a recovery key process same as a typical authenticator MFA, sometimes other routes in addition like combining multiple other MFAs or recovery contact assignment. Regardless, completely losing PW manager access across devices would presumably be the more immediate crisis for most.

Thanks for the great article! I had a question re: the top disadvantage you mention (lock-in).

Background: Although the on-device integration for Apple, Google, etc. use their cloud for E2E sync between devices, it appears KeePassXC using their passkey interception, discovery, and import procedures accomplish the same cross-device passkey implementation without needing a particular vendor cloud lock-in. As best I can tell, this meets the original standard’s sync fabric requirements (whether or not the big providers like it) and relies on platform-specific APIs mostly for interoperability.

Question: If KeePass has been able to implement their own sync this way, and the FIDO standard accommodates non-OS providers (e.g. browsers or PW managers), what is currently the biggest technical hurdle remaining for FOSS-based passkey providers?

KeePassXC has begun rollout of their own implementation, and I’m pretty sure they’re considered FOSS.

From a quick scan of the white paper, it appears they’re currently using on-device passkey discovery and otherwise “intercepting” passkey registration workflows, which I take to mean they aren’t originating the request as a passkey registrar. This may be the easiest method to satisfy FIDO’s dID requirements.

This is a big one. Lock-in and the threat of provider blacklisting means it will remain a shortcut like SSO (“sign in with ____”) until we’ve established federated providers.

On further reading, this may not be as far off as I thought. Passkey registration providers can be OS-level but browser and password manager based solutions were intended (overview from FIDO alliance). And it looks like KeePassXC has begun rollout of their own. If I’m reading correctly they currently “piggyback” off of an OS-based provider in various ways, so it’s not yet an end-to-end implementation, but these are early days.

The passkey options I’ve come across so far are as close to push-button as I can imagine.

Do you mean from the developer perspective, like the complexity of the API/workflow?

Exactly

Slow is smooth, and smooth is fast.

Haha that’s the one ;)

Yeah you get it. It’s a “slow = fast” type of spiel, just a bone to pick with colleagues who embrace anti-user practices needlessly.

You still need 2fa

I think most passkey implementations incorporate multiple factors already. The session factor is considered distinct from the device factor, even if it’s all on the same device.

Which isn’t super different from the traditional USB key procedure, where a user would activate a FIDO biometric after clearing an SSO portal, or what have you.

I’m not really concerned about the security of it. Moreso the inconvenience…

Honestly, convenience is security (change-my-mind lol) insofar as it measurably impacts rate of user adoption/adherence and thus outcomes.

It’s the annoyance you describe that leads most users to skip 2FA setup until it’s forced on them, for example.

Honestly I’d take that as pretty strong evidence against the idle talk from that thread. If only because kids who grew up during and shortly after the war grappled with these ideas earlier than most, and did so during a period where WS was suddenly condemned quite publicly.

Thank you!

Thanks! I lost motivation after a few lines lol

Thank you!

And honestly I don’t know that they do, since that thread is the only example I have off-hand where it was implied, and no one took time to explain.

These days I’m not terribly surprised to find WS ideas lurking in high-fantasy and scifi of yesteryear. (I mean, beyond the most pedestrian forms invited by the very notion of differing races/species coexisting.) ETA: I just don’t want to “cancel” some author I don’t know about without knowing why.

I was asking about this author recently (in this post) because a number of people referred to “Stormbringer” as an obvious white-supremacist reference but I couldn’t confirm with a fair amount of digging what everyone else seemed to know off-hand.

Is this author associated with WS? Or is this just an unfortunate result of an easy assumption that anything “storm-x” is WS-adjacent? Since I haven’t read any Moorcock, I don’t yet know. I’m just curious because I try to be aware of such things.