Every plant is poisonous. Humans are basically the only mammal that eats capsaicin, caffeine, menthol. Grapes are toxic for everything except a few things. Plants don’t have the ability to pull out a gun to defend itself and so it uses poison, or irritants like thorns. This isn’t limited to pants with animals. Plants are also toxic to other plants. The example that I deal with the most is black walnut. I tried growing plants and when I used the walnut leaves for mulch it would kill the plants I tried growing.
Yeah, it seems like they want completely different people. The reason why they feel this way is 1 Christian dude probably doesn’t talk much to women, and is a guy so he doesn’t open up to that many people. Then with her the guy probably isn’t talking/asking about sex because he’s a ‘good Christian boy’. They’re both probably lonely, and the unscheduled “play” is probably what makes them into each other.
My advice wouldn’t be helpful…“Make close friends”…“have a hobby”… “Find something that makes you feel important”. But none of that is about the immediate relationship. So I’d only say “Good luck, making mistakes while young is most of the time fine. Have an exit strategy.”