this has been on my mind a lot. I follow some lesbian meme shitposting groups and there’s tons of memes that are just like “This girl looked at me and I died and then she smiled at me and I came back to life” and I just cannot think of any cishet men’s spaces that bring that have that level of absolutely dorky dysfunctional love for women. And, like, cishet men, their whole thing is supposed to be being in to women, and that just strikes me as really weird that there’s not an equivalent. Like the closest I can think of is wife guy memes but that’s just one wife, usually.
Do any spaces like that exist? Is it even possible given the way gender works in society?
I’d say that it’s still a very common trope, and that’s part of the reason it’s not discussed much. The other reason is that, as the cultural “default” cishet men don’t really create spaces centering their shared cishet experience, since basically all communities are awash in that already. Lesbians obviously carve out spaces for themselves where they can discuss their own culture, which is not often on display in the wider culture.
Like if you went to a forum for cishet dudes, it would be a bunch of guys who think there aren’t enough places already to talk about being a cishet dude and that’s a big red flag.