• Snowclone@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    Uh not correct. Tall angry looking dudes get told all the time to ‘smile’.

    Of course, it’s also aimed at women for sexist reason, I got told to smile so many times as an angry looking dude. Then I’m walking around with my daughter and this full on 30 something grown ass adult man tells her to smile. I could have rage fisted him into the fucking sun at midnight, The pure burning hate that flooded my viens at that moment decreased my life span by 3 years. I could have poured it down his entire being. Instead I told him she’ll do whatever she wants with her face, and he can fuck off.

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        4 months ago

        Yes. but It’s been a few years since it’s happened. Or I stopped noticing/caring. Idk which.

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              4 months ago

              how is that being an asshole? you said it happens all the time and when i asked you said it happened years ago. because i can tell you that most women who don’t smile all the time wouldn’t say it’s been years since some stranger felt entitled to tell them to smile. that’s my whole point.

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                4 months ago

                You don’t care that I am against the behavior in every case, that I acknowledged women are targets by misogynists and sexists, or that I’ve agreed it’s a lesser problem for me.

                You don’t care about any of that.

                You care about playing some childish game where this is a competition on who is treated worse with what frequency so you can scold me for daring to point out the shitty behavior also effects me.

                That’s not honest. That’s being an asshole.

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                  4 months ago

                  i said something doesn’t happen to men in contrast with it happening to women all the time, and you said it happens to men all the time, but one question later you said it happened years ago. i care about the frequency because the frequency was the point.

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                    4 months ago

                    So cool. You sure showed me. I’ll never be against the exact same shit you’re against again!

                    Hay, can I still be against racism? I’m not white, but I’ve only been the victim of racism a few dozen times, so… maybe I need to just check with you first, I wouldn’t want to express how much I hate racism if you don’t approve of how frequently I’ve been upset by it, and that’s what matters, not solidarity with other anti-racists or confronting racistism. Just the frequency.