Personally, for me it’s the idea that just because you don’t experience something (dysphoria, or being a gender other than what society expects of you) that doesn’t mean those experiences aren’t valid.
I get sooo tired of the response “I just don’t understand! I love being my AGAB! Why can’t you just get over it?”
Honestly, I wish they’d understand that negative experiences happen occasionally and that it doesn’t invalidate or override the positives of transition. I sometimes feel like I have to present a manicured facade.
Good point. It puts us in a position where our identities are invalidated unless we “put on a show” to somehow convince the world we’ve never experienced a bad day since our egg crack.
“Oh, you’re having a bad day? Must be because you’re not actually trans.” -_-