like, if I’m nice (as I would prefer to be), a man might get the wrong impression, but I’m also afraid to be rude or do anything to upset them so I have to be the right kind of nice or polite - it’s a real double-bind, and something I don’t experience with women

  • arsCynic@lemmy.mlEnglish
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    4 days ago

    As this is a female-only community, quoting a female coworker I coincidentally discussed this with today:

    “I used to change my behaviour sometimes because I was told it could be interpreted as fancying the male I’m talking to. Now I realize that’s not a my problem but a they problem. I talk to whoever, however, and if they ask me out I just say no.”

    “Voila, it’s all about communication.”

    “Exactly.”

    • foxglove (she/her)@lazysoci.alMEnglish
      12·
      4 days ago

      er, I’m not sure quoting another woman is a suitable exception to the rules - maybe in the future please refrain; I appreciate your enthusiasm and desire to contribute, but it’s important that we respect the rules

      • Wren@lemmy.todayEnglish
        11·
        4 days ago

        Pretty ironic to quote a woman who agrees with him when the subject is women who modify their behavior for men. Who else thinks this “female” is real and everyone clapped at the end?

    • Wren@lemmy.todayEnglish
      13·
      4 days ago

      So you read the rules and you commented anyway?

      It’s a trans-inclusive women’s com, no one’s checking chromosomes.