It’s more like a bunch of paraplegic people asking you if they can borrow your wheelchair because doctors will not acknowledge their need for one and dismiss their symptoms as drug seeking behavior.

Speaking as a woman who only got diagnosed in my late 20s after years of needless suffering. Boys are 3 times more likely to be diagnosed than girls because our current ADHD assessments are based on studies from decades ago that were only done on boys. Girls are socialized differently as children and thus present different symptoms. Behavior that is excused in boys for having ADHD, like not being able to sit still or running around yelling a lot, is punished as ‘un-girly behavior’ and internalized as a failure to adhere to gender roles in girls, hence why girls are conditioned to mask better at a young age, at the expense of their own mental health the longer they continue to mask.

This is the other side of the coin from the social media backlash against women coming out with ADHD whilst the internet dismisses them for faking ADHD and being attention whores. Women are punished, not rewarded, for masking their ADHD. The more effort we put into masking, the more people assume we are neurotypical, and the more we are criticized for ADHD symptoms we are unable to mask because we are held to the same standards as neurotypicals.