People don’t generally set ultimatums unless it’s something that has been bothering them for a long time and hasn’t been addressed.
The way you call OP’s girlfriend ‘bitchy and entitled’ just reeks of misogyny when she never got to tell her side of the story. People like you should be setting aside your own biases and ask if OP is a reliable narrator, instead of taking everything at face value because a man’s word is more trustworthy than his account of a woman’s word to you.
You’re confusing the law with personal judgment.
No where did I say that huge age gaps need to be illegal between consenting adult. I only made a value statement about how the relationship is inappropriate because younger adults are vulnerable to exploitation. At 18, most people do not have the financial means nor a strong support network to leave an abusive relationship or a manipulative partner.
It has nothing to do with LGBTQ people because being non-binary does not make one inherently vulnerable to exploitation by another non-binary person.
How do you know she’s the main tenant and not on a sublease? How do you know what OP means when he said his GF ‘gave’ him one afternoon? If he doesn’t get it fixed, she’ll do what? Stop coming over? Stop sharing finances? Break up?
So many unasked questions and yet everyone is quick to assume that the GF is insane. I wonder why that is.a
ITT: People telling OP to break up with her because we are absolutely certain that she is crazy and only gave him one afternoon to fix this, and there is no way she could have been losing sleep for days or weeks while asking him to do something about it, like hold the landlord accountable.
First off, fuck pedophiles.
But secondly, becoming 18 doesn’t suddenly make one any less vulnerable to exploitation than a 17 year old who is 1 day away from becoming 18.
Just because someone is 18 and ‘legal’, it doesn’t make it not gross for a 40 year old to date them. It’s an improvement from dating a 15 year old, but gross regardless.
This is only true until you realize that a lot of modern science is built upon foundations of systemic discrimination that excluded women and minorities. Only new researching can prove old research wrong, and the lack of funding for catching up in inclusivity in science has led to the status quo of outdated beliefs permeating STEM but dressed in a lab coat of credibility.
Research on women’s health and medicine lags behind men’s by decades due to the historical exclusion of women in studies and the refusal to treat them as credible witnesses to their own bodies’ symptoms. Magnitudes of more money has been poured into ED than endometriosis, an agonizing condition that gets dismissed as ‘just a period’ by doctors.
It’s more like a bunch of paraplegic people asking you if they can borrow your wheelchair because doctors will not acknowledge their need for one and dismiss their symptoms as drug seeking behavior.
Speaking as a woman who only got diagnosed in my late 20s after years of needless suffering. Boys are 3 times more likely to be diagnosed than girls because our current ADHD assessments are based on studies from decades ago that were only done on boys. Girls are socialized differently as children and thus present different symptoms. Behavior that is excused in boys for having ADHD, like not being able to sit still or running around yelling a lot, is punished as ‘un-girly behavior’ and internalized as a failure to adhere to gender roles in girls, hence why girls are conditioned to mask better at a young age, at the expense of their own mental health the longer they continue to mask.
This is the other side of the coin from the social media backlash against women coming out with ADHD whilst the internet dismisses them for faking ADHD and being attention whores. Women are punished, not rewarded, for masking their ADHD. The more effort we put into masking, the more people assume we are neurotypical, and the more we are criticized for ADHD symptoms we are unable to mask because we are held to the same standards as neurotypicals.
That’s because the average person has 1.999… legs, hence the appreciation for having 2.
Arguments like yours are hurting, not helping, women’s advocacy in modern medicine.
When you throw out all nuance, it opens the door for misogynists to dismiss every valid concern that women have when it comes to systemic discrimination in medicine. You are also alienating men who support male birth control in the process.
As someone who has had life threatening issues dismissed by doctors, been gaslit about the efficacy of my medications, berated for going to the ER when my doctor instructed me to, gone through an excruciating IUD insertion, trust me when I say I am the last person to defend sexism in medicine.
However, male birth control isn’t as that simple of an issue. There are legitimate scientific barriers to developing male birth control. It doesn’t erode away the slow pace and funding in developing male birth control that is made worse by sexism, but sexism isn’t the full story.
Medical science is not that black and white.
Think about birth control in terms of preventing death and disfigurement. Men don’t die from pregnancy, women do.
When women take birth control, it has the upside of not dying in pregnancy, having horrific pain in the process, or permanent changes to their body. Birth control has a lot of side effects, but at the end of the day, the maternal mortality rate of women who take birth control is far lower.
The reason why medical trials for male birth has been put on hold before, is because when weighing the side effects vs benefits of male birth control, men did not have to weight against death and suffering through pregnancy. Thus, the justification for male birth control requires a much higher bar.
While discrimination against women is prevalent in medicine, this isn’t as simple as an instance of dismissing male birth control because men didn’t like it. The process through which new modern medicines are vetted requires comparing the positive and negative outcomes of a medication, and that doesn’t necessarily take gender dynamics into account.
It’s not an insult?? It’s a joke about owning trans people. OP didn’t even make any grammatical errors, the sentence was just open to interpretation.
English is my second language too. I don’t get why people like you feel the need to get offended on behalf of others who didn’t ask for it.
Where does one go to ‘have’ a trans person? Asking for a friend.
Edit: It’s a joke about owning a trans person, and has nothing to do with grammar. Not sure why people are looking for something to be angry about.
The brevity of police training program is definitely a major contributor.
While there are mental health programs present, the stigma of mental health has rendered many of them unused. Police surveyed in North Dakota found that an overwhelming majority will not disclose their mental health issues to their colleagues or supervisors, most expect to be discriminated if they do, and see mental health issues as a personal failure.
Of the services provided, only debriefings and weight rooms saw significant use. Outside of that, few used therapy, peer support groups, mental health checks, and resilience therapy.
That’s a good point. Conservatives often excuse the abuse of power because the scope of police work demands it, without acknowledging that there are non-police alternatives that are likelier to descalate a situation.
I think this ties into their inability to acknowledge mental health as a real and treatable issue. Perhaps because doing so would require acknowledging their own while being inhibited by the shame and cultural conditioning they grew up with.
It is horrifying for so many to fail their psych exam. However, I would also question if this is the most effective approach to better policing outcomes.
Psych exams in volatile workplaces are contradictory due to self reported elements in the exam. In aviation, there is a phenomenon where pilots historically masked mental health issues because a diagnosis was a death sentence to their careers. Paradoxically, acknowledging and allowing pilots to fly with these issues while being medicated has led to better outcomes.
The police who answered truthfully in the exam were fired, but that begs the question of whether the remainder were mentally sound or simply knew how to mask themselves in the psych exam.
No, I am speaking about the police specifically.
The advancements being made to mental health care in the military are meaningful, and the reduction of homeless veteran through housing programs speaks to the progress and recognition of difficulties in reintegrating into civilian life.
The conservative mind genuinely believes that vaccines are harmful thanks to fox news and RFK Jr. There’s no recovering from that. The kids will die and they will still insist it’s the right thing.
However, that does not justify mandatory vaccinations. The US has historically denied, medically abused, and withheld consent from minority patients. To this day, black women are still receiving poorer outcomes due to a history of neglect and blatant discrimination. While most vaccine deniers are not among this cohort, mandatory vaccines would ultimately marginalize the very people conservatives aim to marginalize.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tuskegee_Syphilis_Study?wprov=sfla1
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Medical_exploitation_of_Black_women_in_the_United_States?wprov=sfla1
Well ackchyually, that’s anti-semitism. /s
Being able to vote doesn’t make one immune to exploitation. That’s as bizarre as saying that if you can do a backflip you’re immune to drowning.
The reason why 18 year old are allowed to vote is because they are typically entering the work force or higher education, likely paying rent or taxes, and thus are engaging in a social contract in which they are entitled to exercise their right to vote.
This has nothing to do with the lack of dating experience most 18 year olds have that render them vulnerable to understanding what is and isn’t a healthy relationship.
It’s ironic that you would call me the Iranian morality police while threatening to block me for voicing an opinion that explicitly supports the legal exploitation of age gaps. Again, I never said it should be illegal, just heavily frowned upon.
I cum to the thought of being blocked because nothing says ‘You’re right and I’m out of bullshit to say’ more than that.