For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.
On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.
From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.
Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!
So I’ve since gotten rid of the whole dick, but no never. I got picked on for it a bit as a teenager but teenagers will pick on any differences. Nobody I’ve dated has minded foreskin (though they’ve all been the sort of women who date trans women) and in fact one bi ex of mine confided that she finds uncircumcised penises very attractive before she knew about me being uncut. Another ex of mine wasn’t into it per se, but she was an anti circumcision activist.
A big thing is when I was young and getting the talks with my mom she explained why she made the choice. Knowing that it was a decision made out of respect for my future autonomy, fear of complications, and respect for my right to have all my nerves, it made it so any teasing was irrelevant and just made me feel bad for the people teasing me.
Oh I should mention I had a friend in college who was undergoing some procedures or something in an attempt to regrow her foreskin because of how unhappy she was with having been circumcised, so take that possibility as well