The idea that adopted kids aren’t “your own” or as real as biological kids is silly. My first partner was adopted, and she’s much closer to her family than I’ve ever been.
Knowing the hoops adoptive parents have to jump through (at least where I live), I’d even say that the average adoptive parent is probably more of a parent than the average biological one. You really need to want kids to go through that process.
Of the children up for adoption a huge portion have pretty serious issues. Some it’s stuff like trauma, many are significantly disabled (like, learning and behavior disabilities, not just like deaf or needs a wheelchair), some are at risk of being taken back (a lot of foster kids are in and out due to unstable parents), and others have issues of providence (stolen from parents in developing countries).
There are also issues like many adoption agencies are Christian run and will not adopt to queer people or non-Christians.
Adoption is great, if you’re interested in kids but can’t make your own its definitely the first thing you should look at. But a lot of people like to act like there’s an infinite number of adaptable babies out there, but very few people voluntarily give up a healthy baby never to see it again.
So because you are gay you can’t have your own kids. Might as well give the marriage licenses back too.
The idea that adopted kids aren’t “your own” or as real as biological kids is silly. My first partner was adopted, and she’s much closer to her family than I’ve ever been.
Knowing the hoops adoptive parents have to jump through (at least where I live), I’d even say that the average adoptive parent is probably more of a parent than the average biological one. You really need to want kids to go through that process.
What if they’re both guys
I think surrogacy and IVF should be legal but what’s the problem with adoption?
Of the children up for adoption a huge portion have pretty serious issues. Some it’s stuff like trauma, many are significantly disabled (like, learning and behavior disabilities, not just like deaf or needs a wheelchair), some are at risk of being taken back (a lot of foster kids are in and out due to unstable parents), and others have issues of providence (stolen from parents in developing countries).
There are also issues like many adoption agencies are Christian run and will not adopt to queer people or non-Christians.
Adoption is great, if you’re interested in kids but can’t make your own its definitely the first thing you should look at. But a lot of people like to act like there’s an infinite number of adaptable babies out there, but very few people voluntarily give up a healthy baby never to see it again.