Even most “allies” view their support more as humoring or an act of common decency than any actual endorsement of trans identities. Many folks don’t actually view you as your gender. They just either respect you enough to call you the right pronouns, or they just consider it common decency.
But when a trans person does something horrible, something truly unforgivable? Suddenly that person isn’t worthy of respect anymore, so there’s no point in humoring their identity. If you actually believe trans identities are “valid,” then you won’t misgender someone, even if they’re a childremoved serial killer. Cisgender women don’t get called men and thrown in men’s prisons if they commit acts of brutal violence. Their gender isn’t invalidated, because their identity is not conditional. Most “allies” view respect for trans identities as conditional. For some, this means that true monsters are worthy of misgendering. For others, it means any time a trans person says something mean to them they’re worthy of misgendering.
If she was reported to have “identified as a female” then why are we using “his” and “son” here?
Because the article is written by bigots
Seems like most of the news media is doing this at the moment. Makes me livid.
Well, it’s the Sunday Times. It’s a stupid rightist TERF island rag, along the likes of the Daily Mail.
yeah they don’t have their shit together at all. they don’t care to.
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Even most “allies” view their support more as humoring or an act of common decency than any actual endorsement of trans identities. Many folks don’t actually view you as your gender. They just either respect you enough to call you the right pronouns, or they just consider it common decency.
But when a trans person does something horrible, something truly unforgivable? Suddenly that person isn’t worthy of respect anymore, so there’s no point in humoring their identity. If you actually believe trans identities are “valid,” then you won’t misgender someone, even if they’re a childremoved serial killer. Cisgender women don’t get called men and thrown in men’s prisons if they commit acts of brutal violence. Their gender isn’t invalidated, because their identity is not conditional. Most “allies” view respect for trans identities as conditional. For some, this means that true monsters are worthy of misgendering. For others, it means any time a trans person says something mean to them they’re worthy of misgendering.
Not to mention they deadnamed her
One piece I read just started calling the suspect Rob.
Some people seem to adhere to the idea of “they committed a horrendous act and also died, therefore they can be exempt from our modern etiquette”.
A mindset I see all the time by both sides of the spectrum. I even saw the “it” card thrown around for mere fraud once.