It makes me (18m) really sad when my bf (24m) is depressed. Sometimes he runs hot and cold and says he doesn’t know if we should break up or not but then he says it feels right to be with me and he wants to stay.
Sometimes he doesn’t like doing stuff for me even when I do stuff for him or doesn’t like my interests much but wants me to like his. However, he can’t do much of anything or talk right now because he’s very depressed.
He’s not like himself, and it’s sort of making me feel depressed. How can I help without making myself extremely depressed too? I feel like I understand why he stopped doing certain stuff, and he says he can’t show love for me like he could for his exes. He said it felt right to be my bf but that he didn’t know if we should date.
yeah, that attitude is only going to fail him. there’s no amount of doing nothing that helps. my depression was caused by a subarachnoid brain cyst. I needed several doctors to do their job to figure that out. and an MRI tech who went above and beyond. depression can be a symptom of a lot of solvable medical problems, but you wont find out on the couch.