The only thing constant in life is change is one of my favorite sayings.
I definitely have similar feelings as you. It feels a bit too much like an intricate balancing act for me to feel like it’s ever “together”. Some days are more together than others though!
The irony of them enforcing gender roles for both men and women with those types of statements. Shaming women for not conforming to certain beauty standards and subtly pressuring other men to conform to expecting those standards.
Nasty business all the way around.
That’s really clever, never thought about doing that!
That’s awesome news!!
I really enjoy the Gottman Institute for relationship based advice.
I’m sorry that I have no practical advice. I simply embraced them as part of aging.
Some of my girlfriends like to do a good tanning oil/lotion and that can def help make them not stand out as much. Tanning oils and such have got so much better than when I was a teen!
“Fuck you you fucking whore. Fuck you”.
A text I received from a colleague I was told was “too valuable to reprimand".
I’m so tired of sitting through “Women in tech” panels where women are told what they can do to survive in the tech industry. The ones where women are coached on confidence, on negotiating, on resilience, on not shrinking. The implicit message: the problem is fixable if women just try harder.
This talk isn’t that.
This will be an uncomfortable account of what men actually said and did to one woman, over one career. Ask any woman in the room. They’ve got similar stories. This isn’t uncommon, it’s a fucking Tuesday.
I’m not going to suggest solutions. That’s on the men in the audience. I ask you to reckon with what is happening around you. Talk to your friends about it. See it, say it, fucking sort it.
Jo Franchetti
They didn’t reprimand him because he’s too valuable.
Fuck all of that. Fuck them. Fuck the men that don’t say anything.
I think you never had bright green hair. But I have no basis for this guess, it’s a random hunch haha
Countless at this point.
That sounds like it was a fun craft day for you both :)
Oh I love this!
I love being a slut.
I love having ownership over my sexuality. I love getting to know different people from different walks of life. I love making people feel good about themselves and making them feel good in bed. I love that smile someone gets when you call them pretty.
I love showing off my body. I love that I love my body now. I love how good it can feel to touch and be touched.
I love the freedom of being a slut.
Oh noooo! I hope it’s not bad and they give you some good options!!
Do you have a dog? I highly recommend a furry buddy for hikes.
Also letting your sister or friends know where you’re going to be and when to expect you home. Maybe location sharing if you’re comfortable with that.
I owe that man a lot for the person I am today and I mean that in the best ways possible.
I remember distinctly the day in my childhood that I became aware of anti-abortion protestors as my father and I were going somewhere in the city. I asked my dad what they were mad about.
“They’re mad that women are allowed to stop their pregnancies.” My dad told me. “They think it’s about killing babies.”
I remember thinking about it for a moment before asking something related, but my dad made a point that stuck with me for the rest of my life:
“Don’t you think women should be allowed to decide what happens with their own bodies?”
That’s when I became a feminist before I even had the words to know what that meant.
I love women.
That’s all. Just wanted to say I love y’all. Keep on being the coolest cats around.
This is a quality comment, incredibly insightful. Thank you.
I plan my days out, even if that means planning a day to do “nothing”. It took many years to figure out that I thrive best when there’s structure and so far so good!