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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • I’ve made a lot of IRL friends online and at work.

    If you’re between jobs, consider doing something like Americorps. People of all ages do it, not just young folks, and its temporary. I think of it as summer camp for adults, but you get paid and in some cases housing.

    Back in 2017 I was super into VR. IDK what the communities are like now, back then the demographics were older, but I got a big social fix from it. An oculus quest 2 or 3 is affordable. Almost all the best games are social, “face to face” talking. It’s like having a public arcade in your closet.

    I made the most friends back in 2011 by posting art online and commenting on other artists’ things. People love chatting about their hard work. I ended up meeting loads of them in person. If you can find a space of creatives, whether it’s a bluegrass club, DND, discord book club, whatever, you’ll have a good time.

    And, don’t beat yourself up about being lonely. Life moves in cycles. Remember, it just takes meeting one extrovert to suddenly gain a crap ton of friends. Or, maybe you’ll collect them one by one. Regardless, I feel you. Be well.







  • Tbh, I think a lot of people are doing extended phone calls and discord convos these days. I can’t go to the grocery without hearing a few loud speaker phone convos, and back when I was more social online I’d leave Skype running in group calls for hours a day after work. (I especially hear Spanish convos over the phone in public from workers phones. I suspect many of these people don’t speak English well and are calling family and friends for social stimulation. I live in FL, USA)

    The only thing stopping me now, I think, is I live with my partner and spend tons of time with them, so my social battery is constantly low.