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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • The trouble is that, apparently, “perfect UI” can mean “let’s take all the sidebar tabs, remove their text labels and make all their icons really abstract and in the same colour. Oh, and change their order, too, while you’re at it.”

    Thank you from the bottom of my muscle memory and pattern recognition. Now, give us back our old UI that was actually meaningful, or at least make it an option if you insist that your “clean look” is more important than actual usability.

    ^(Apart from that, I love you JetBrains.)


  • Hey. As the other lemming said, I don’t know you or your situation. As a non-trans person (but a humble ally), I know that I know nothing about your struggles. What I do know for certain is that what you are doing takes a lot of guts, and that you have my deepest respect for taking on this quest. Also, I for one would rather see a dude in a dress (so what?) than an unhappy person.

    I realise that passing 100% of the time would make everything So. Much. Easier, and yet I’m sure that even veterans fall short of a perfect score. But you don’t need to be perfect - as if transitioning would somehow achieve such an utopia! I wonder, how much is the least percentage of your week that would make a significant difference for you? Surely more that 2%, but just as surely way lower than 80%. I’d wager that even a measly 14% would yield tremendous empowerment (why 14%? That’s a single day out of a week).

    Getting there will take time, and effort, and bravery, and coping with failure. Just know that somewhere on this planet there’s a complete stranger who’s rooting for you. You got this, girl. Maybe not today, but you got this.




  • On a Hyundai, there’s a very annoying beeping pretty much coinciding with the wheels hitting the lane markings - which IMHO is too little too late, and besides around here most lane markings are made to rumble so it’s not like an additional audio signal is needed.

    On my ex’es brand new car, that feature got turned off after very few kilometres, and has stayed off ever since.


  • I carry some because it’s no longer a thing. My card has only the information that I know will not change: my name, email address, and mobile phone number. On the back there’s a QR code (which contrasts the otherwise vintage look).

    I hand out perhaps one per month so not super often, and many times the most appropriate thing to do is to simply tell people my phone number. But sometimes, especially when we’re in a situation where phones are not nearby, it’s quite effective to hand over a pre-made card with that info.

    The average reaction is “Oh, cool” so even if they toss it once they’ve copied the info (which, tbh, is my expectation) it will still have made the exchange slightly out of the ordinary.

    Plus, sometimes they’re useful to stop a table from rattling, or leave a message for someone who’s not currently present, and so on.