Is not liking androgynous people something your wife has actually told you about her sexuality? Because all the bi people I’ve heard have represented it as liking both “same and different” rather than “binary men and women”. It can, as you say, take time to adjust, though.

Also note that HRT can be more like an exponential dropoff: it can take years to get the full effects, but a HUGE amount will happen in the first six months or so.

hypothetical medication that would harm me if the doctor thought I was a cis man and didn’t out myself

Not that I’m accusing you of anything, but this is a hypothetical that I hear a lot from transphobes (ie, "would you take the medication only for “biological” men / women despite being a trans woman / man? If so, ha ha! You admit to being your AGAB really. If not, ha ha! You die).

Other than questions of what anatomy is physically present, I’ve never heard of (and sincerely doubt the existence of) any case where birth sex is relevant.

Sounds like you figured it out already! I suggest you go live as the person you want to be and pay no mind to any potential haters. Good luck <3

PS HRT is indeed awesome

Thank you! It seems almost everyone is blind to their own progress :3

Hehe tenk u <3

Thank you!

Hehe, I think it’s mostly the hairstyle but yes I see it too. Maybe that’s why I keep buying kind of old-fashioned dresses. Wait… am I from the past? 🤔

I mean I’d classify it as “very unpleasant” but not unbearable. Deep breaths but I did let out a few squeals now and again :P My technician was surprised that I could stand it without anesthetic, so I guess I just have a higher-than-normal pain tolerance?

Ah, that’s good to know.

I’m still a while away from even an initial consult, so probably at least a year to go still. But we’ve pretty much finished the first pass already, just a case of picking up any dormant hairs now. Guess there’s time to start tackling the remaining hair on my face as well then (^^

I found that I could go back to my normal accent once I got used to doing girl voice. It’s probably something to do with habit and muscle memory, but who knows.

A bra is like a hug that lasts all day 🩷

🎵 The internet is for porn memes

Possibly you’re over-enunciating? I’m from the south of England originally and usually talk with a fairly international blend, but when I started voice training my accent turned very plummy.

You could try impersonating someone in particular: repeat lines from a move or game, even. Or try a totally different accent. Valley girl is fun :)

I went to the local festival in the most extreme baby-trans outfit I could put together (because if you can’t wear something outrageous then, when can you?). I’ve been going for many many years, but this was my first time attending in my current form, as it were. I was a bit scared of being recognized so I was only planning to watch this year, but I ended up getting roped in to carrying on the women’s team anyway :3

Good question!

Regarding transition, I though I’d probably always look pretty clocky (I wanted to transition anyway, though!). Now at almost a year in I don’t have much trouble seeing a girl in the mirror most of the time, even in a T-shirt and jeans with stubble and no makeup!

I thought I was shy. Turns out I just didn’t like pretending to be a man.

I thought I was self-conscious. Turns out now that I like my body more I want to show it off!

I thought wanting to be a woman was just a sexual fantasy. Everybody knows that one.

I thought estrogen would turn me into an emotional wreck. Actually I’m much calmer than I used to be.

I thought transition was something that other people did. I was wrong.

Haha, yes, even with my meager assets tight tops are definitely starting to draw attention!

It does. That’s because it’s a manly shirt, for manly men, just like I was trying (and failing) to be.

But I don’t recall ever putting anything in them. They just used to catch on door handles all the time.

OK, to be fair: it’s stretchy fabric, a shorter cut and a tighter fit. But I have slimmed down a lot, I promise!

And the boy top is too big for me to reasonably wear now, although it used to be pretty comfortable.

Aww thank you, I love flowers! That’s so kind <3

Hope the move goes OK! Stay safe <3