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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • I missed the discussion on voting the other day it seems, but for what it’s worth, I like the voting system. In real life discussions happen in open air, and don’t hang there in posterity for people to stumble upon after. When we come to a consensus in conversation it is then left at that and we move on.

    When online, these discussions stay as they are, and I think voting gives a way of people to come to a consensus, to leave a mark upon the conversation such that the people who come behind understand how everyone felt about it.

    This is helpful I think, because it does not hide the down votes on nasty comments or ideas that hurt others.

    One of the most interesting and horrible things about the internet is that every village has a “crazy Bob” but because they were the minority the good of the people outnumbered their outlandish or hateful ideas.

    Now they can and do find each other online, forming a vocal and damaging minority. Without the majority able to show their dislike, human nature means more will fall in line with them and their ideals.


  • “Now when I’m thinking about all the recent times I’ve been “helping” her out financially”

    This statement gives the impression that finances are not equal at all, and that you consider giving the stay at home mother of your child money to cover her expenses as “help” that deserves some sort of pat on the back.

    She is a stay at home mom, that is her job. You go to work to earn the money, that’s your job.

    You saying that you “help her out financially” is just… weird. It’s like a father saying he is “babysitting” his kids. You don’t babysit your own children, you parent them because you are their father.

    Edit: Apologies, I seem to have replied to the wrong person. <3








  • Honestly, the rules and laws on divorce are so wild across the country. I was married in California but my husband left after 6 months. I hadn’t see him in 9 or 10 years, had no idea where he was.

    Because I was in the state of Kentucky when I filed, I had to go to a church run “divorce education class” on how to save my marriage and complete a little workbook.

    Completely insane class, I stayed in the back and tried to stay silent, but the teacher forced me to participate and asked some leading question about how I could communicate better with my spouse to prevent a divorce or some shit.

    Told her I had no idea where my spouse was, that he had left after 6 months and that I had to hire a private investigator (and a police officer!) to serve my divorce papers. The whole thing was nuts.




  • “I was always puzzled by the fact that people have a great deal of trouble and pain when and if they are forced or feel forced to change a belief or circumstance which they hold dear. I found what I believe is the answer when I read that a Canadian neurosurgeon discovered some truths about the human mind which revealed the intensity of this problem. He conducted some experiments which proved that when a person is forced to change a basic belief or viewpoint, the brain undergoes a series of nervous sensations equivalent to the most agonizing torture.”

    I saved this quote years ago, I don’t remember the source, but your post reminded me of it.