Not forcing things is generally pretty good life advice. It’s like a fart: if you have to force it it’s probably shit.

No, Mother, it’s just the Northern Lights

Not sure what PoF is like these days but last I heard (a few years ago to be fair) they would ban you if you said you were polyamorous and point you towards Ashley Madison, since they were a little bit too religious to even be nice about it.

Good! “Tribe mindset” is honestly not a great thing and rewards people for “towing the line” rather than actually expressing their views and having real conversations.

I know that this question is quite old now, but I recent read the new Multiamory book and felt that has some excellent guidance and ideas in it. I’ve listened to the podcast for some time so that makes sense :)

The other one which is particularly good for me as an anxious person is The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy