If they didn’t ask for it, and don’t want it, it’s not ‘giving’ the other person anything. This is how a lot of sexual assault works; the rapist tells the other person they’re enjoying it and does things like this, and then goes ‘well I did (whatever act) for them, so I’m the good guy here.’ This idea that performing oral/touching the other person/etc without direct stimulation back is entirely about the person receiving is false, has always been false, and will continue to be false. This is dangerous ground we’re on here, and we’re better than this.

Seriously, the opening words are I want. I don’t know how much more direct it would have to be here.

First time I get that remark…

Funny enough, growing up I got tired of hearing women complain …

I believe this is when the kids say ‘lol.’

The dude is actively offering to pleasure the girl

No, he’s offering to do what he wants to do. It’s not universal that women want that; it’s not universal that women want anyone to do that; it’s not universal that women want that specific person to do that. This is how we got rape in Revenge of the Nerds because a bunch of guys went “yeah but she liked it, right?”

the guy is willingly taking the longer route to the girls favours, by putting her pleasure ahead of his.

No he isn’t, he wants to give her head. That’s for his pleasure–he enjoys going down on women. Said women aren’t fucking obligated to agree just because he’s offering.

This is some incel-level shit here.

I’m in Canada, and I do most of those things already, but this is great advice in general. I warn specifically about Measels because I have family who (thankfully, were) immune to the vaccine, so they’d get warnings from doctors like “we’ve seen a rise in people not vaccinating so… avoid bringing (my cousin) to large gatherings of people like concerts, and try to keep them in schools with higher vaccination rates.” They’re teenaged and were finally able to get the vaccine to work (I don’t have the details, just that it worked) but my cousin missed seeing Raffi because some conservative fucks decided they didn’t care enough about children dying to vaccinate theirs.

I don’t think people understand how bad measles is:

Furthermore, measles’s reproductive number estimates vary beyond the frequently cited range of 12 to 18.[17] The NIH quote this 2017 paper saying: “[a] review in 2017 identified feasible measles R0 values of 3.7–203.3”

The measles virus can deplete previously acquired immune memory by killing cells that make antibodies, and thus weakens the immune system, which can cause deaths from other diseases.[42][43][44] Suppression of the immune system by measles lasts about two years and has been epidemiologically implicated in up to 90% of childhood deaths in third world countries, and historically may have caused rather more deaths in the United States, the UK and Denmark than were directly caused by measles.

Just wait until a third of the US doesn’t vaccinate for it – you’re going to have 1980’s levels of deaths to it, and it will be mostly children.

RFK Jr. as Health Secretary.

Measels is going to fuck the US up.

For now, sure.

I’m pretty sure it’s spelled ‘bolognese’ 🤔

… you may not believe this but I disagree with some of your viewpoints as well!

Such as? I didn’t give any.

If you think a court deciding that it’s not necessary for a train company to know your gender is ‘extreme left wing progressive’ talk, good luck in your delusional pocket of brave little right-wing cis bois. I applaud you for being such a coward that you delete your own comments rather than face criticism.

I wish you the best of luck being part of a belief system that requires that it devour itself. Just remember that when your friends will come for you after they come for us. You’ll never be on the inside crowd that you want to be, and one day you’ll be on the outside looking in.

I wanted to see if you were the same name I remember posting similar eye-roll inducing things in the past but, you know:

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🎵 Dear Goth, it’s been 666 days since my last confession… 🎵

“Mr. Gideon, you’re not paying attention.”

Is that gasoline I smell?

Just look at religion for answers to that puzzle. The entire schtick is a manual for giving yourself and your friends easy outs from your constant and consistent bad behaviour

I guess that could be why; up here in Canada it’s political suicide to be openly religious (though I think the Cons will change their tune on that next election.)

As a non-American (Canadian), it’s baffling to me. Our Conservatives have been quite horrific in many decisions (like refusing to admit climate change exists, for example), but I do actually think they would turn on one of their own who was a pedophile. Maybe not in a year or so, but for now, I do believe they would. To see people celebrate these monstrous things in their leaders is terrifying.

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I wish you the best, I’m looking outside software in general. I used to offer to help people find employment in games but now I just can’t. I’ve seen too many people broken by it.

I do hope you find something, anything, so you can continue to survive.