I really enjoy the podcast Deeper Dating. The host, Ken Page, is one of the most emotionally in-touch men I’ve heard from. More so than a lot of women, honestly. Also, therapy and men’s groups are a great start too. Consider poetry, talks from Brené Brown, books on attachment styles, and engaging with more emotionally intimate people in your life - even just as friends, male or female.
This is just one perspective, but people-pleasing is when you go overboard with being considerate of others – to the point that you lose yourself. So like the one friend who will say they like all the same things as you, say yes to everything, never disagree, etc. just because they desperately need you to like them. They don’t have boundaries, so even when someone hurts them, they’re like “it’s okay, I don’t mind!” They’re missing a bit of self-respect.
There’s nothing wrong with being kind or considerate of others! It’s really important to have to form deeper relationships. The problem is when seeming ‘nice’ takes the place of your personality or being honest about your real self, because you value other’s validation more. People can sense that and it can put them off because they want to get to know the real person. People-pleasers can play the character that they think others want them to be, instead of putting in the work to like and value themselves and communicate their own needs and boundaries.
I feel like what would honestly be easiest would be to just have some tahini on hand as a backup. It is sesame so it’s not a true substitute, but also it lasts for ages so there isn’t a huge reason to not have some around.
There’s also looria.com/reddit, which gives product recommendations based on the thoughts from different hobby subs. :)
My guess is that it’s more social than biological. Women have a tendency to form closer, more emotionally available, and more plentiful relationships with others – I believe partially due to hormones/brain development and partially due to culture. They’ve done studies that show that having strong social relationships is important to lower stress and loneliness, which can lead to a longer life. I’m not sure if that’s all of it but it definitely couldn’t hurt to work on those things :)
God, what year is it…
When I mentioned Windows, I meant that Adobe also requires Windows 10. And I don’t believe in using edge or chrome because they’re both anti-privacy. I feel like a huge company like Adobe aim to be compatible on most browsers and shouldn’t limit their website visibility because of the browser you’re using, especially with something like Firefox which is well-known. It sets a bad precedent for other websites to do the same, which cuts off the freedom of the web.
Yeah, it’s a bit hard when you’re dealing with industry standards. I’m provided CC through work so it’s not really my choice, but it sounds like Affinity still isn’t a 1:1 option. I’ve been interested in it so I’m glad to hear the other side of things. It’s easy to go FOSS for most personal things, but not as much when it comes to doing business.
Yes, the PC automatically assigns drive letters. The windows drive will get a C (but you don’t need to do anything). I’ll just add that after cloning, you might need to temporarily disconnect the 250gb. Sometimes your PC might get confused if you have two copies of windows attached (the 250gb and the 1tb). You can fix this later on by plugging in the 250gb externally and wiping it.
But yeah, you don’t need to get hung up on drive letters, all that matters is that you have a hard drive with an OS like Windows for your computer to boot from. If you copy it over, and then start up your PC with the new copied drive attached, it should boot from it and that’ll become the new C drive.
No, it shouldn’t have the same the drive letter. It’s sort of similar to how your computer assigns a new drive letter to each USB drive you plug in. Drive letters aren’t permanent and are based on the order they’re plugged in (except C, which is usually your operating system).
Cloning is extremely easy to do on your own by the way. You can use something like Macrium Reflect Free Edition. Then you just open the program, click on the drive you want to copy, then click on the drive where you want the data to go. Just like if you were uploading files to google drive or something. Cloning just copies all of the files, drivers, operating system, other data, etc. It doesn’t literally “clone” the drive (like the drive letter). Let me know if you have any questions, I’d be happy to help :)
Please write for black mirror!
Not that I’m recommending anyone give reddit any more traffic or leverage, but I’ve been using Stealth app at the recommendation of someone else on here. It’s downloadable through f-droid and specifically is meant to keep you anonymous and avoid any trackers and other trash normally found when opening reddit links. You can’t even log into an account. I use it on the rare moments I’m looking for stuff on there, it makes me feel a bit better about it.
I’ve found that learning about and practicing DBT has offered me more of a skill to do this myself. I know what you mean about wishing you could see outside the frame of your emotions and past. In DBT, we have something called the “emotion mind” and the “reasonable mind.” But we need both in order to make decisions. Rationality is great, but emotion provides direction, desire, goals, and a “why” for everything we do. The idea is that when you use emotion and reason together, you can use your “wise mind” which can help you see outside your experiences and gain perspective in new areas. I think I know what you mean because I also crave further neutral 3rd party understanding on my past too, and use ChatGPT a lot for that myself. Thought I would just throw in a couple more cents if you hadn’t heard of the concept. :)
Reminds me of still using spybot search & destroy :p
Damn, talk about being on a roll!
Heh, I had an older coworker ask everyone today if anyone’s joined Threads. Part of what got me thinking about all of this.
Sounds like an interesting yet terrifying concept for a novel 🤔
It’s much easier said than done, but perhaps you should be putting more energy into your relationship with yourself too, not just with her. Sometimes these issues arise as a side effect of the people in the relationship not taking good care of themselves and their life. Imagine getting yourself to a place where you feel confident again and secure despite whatever might happen between you two. Working on that magnetism created by self-fulfillment and self-focus might invite your gf to feel freer and more inspired to start pursuing and desiring you again. I don’t mean play games, but just create a bit of space to recreate some of the desire.
Keep in mind it might not be in your control if it doesn’t have anything to do with you. Your gf might be struggling with hormones, body image issues, stress, depression. Sometimes you get used to being in a relationship and take it for granted a little too (especially if she feels like the option is always there). If you pull back from always being open to sex, create a bit of scarcity, and show focus on your own happiness and your own life outside her, it might help her to feel less stressed and find her way back to you. It’s understandable to feel unstable about things and it sucks that it sounds like she isn’t working on things together with you, but maybe she’s just not there yet. Give it a little time and trust that you’re doing as much as you realistically can for the relationship.