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Cake day: April 29th, 2025

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  • Same age here and similar timeline. I’m still figuring things out. I’m a remote worker so I can hide from my job in a lot of ways, but I’m not sure how it’ll impact my career. Feel free to checkout the /c/TransLater community as well! I’m not out to my parents or siblings - only my cis wife. I don’t think I’ll be coming out to anyone anytime soon because my family trends quite conservative.

    I’m excited on your behalf!









  • I appreciate the concern and it’s super kind of you to bring that all up. I’ve dealt with depression my whole life and I’ve gone to extensive therapy to treat it. On the positive side, I have tons of tools, medications, and support to deal with depression. My wife is aware of my history and I’m going to therapy. I’m taking Lexapro to alleviate my general depression. I’m not super worried about it because my wife and I understand that – if it ever gets to that point – I’ll take HRT to alleviate my symptoms and begin fully transitioning.

    Kids are really important to me. I’ve always wanted a decently sized family and my first child has been nothing but joy (and work, but mostly joy). As for the IVF, it’s definitely on the table. My wife and I are going to assess a natural pregnancy solution in a few months and decide then if we’re interested in trying. I’m pretty sure I can hang on that long. In the meantime, I’m doing everything I can via diet, exercise, and hair to achieve the goals that HRT isn’t going to naturally provide. I’m hoping that we can get pregnant, I can then freeze my sperm, and then I can go on HRT. Basically, I’d be waiting 6-9 months before the HRT arrives at my doorstep. That’s a long time and my plans might change, but that’s the currently plan.


  • Yeah I’m definitely struggling internally but I’ve been ok. I really want more kids and IVF is expensive. We are considering freezing my sperm, but it’s expensive and I’m not exactly wealthy. I’m not poor, but I am a little strapped these days. I don’t know what to do about it but I feel a bit stuck. My life plan is to have 2-3 kids. My wife wants more kids as well. She’s nervous about the costs of IVF and she’s afraid IVF might not work which would start to get even more costly. It’s all very new to both of us so it’s hard to just suddenly turn around and change our life plans drastically. I only came out to her a month ago or so.